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endlesst0m
01-14-2006, 06:55 PM
I HATE it when I become friends with somebody who doesn't really have any other friends. I have a friend like this, and since he has so few friends, he's constantly calling me up to hang out, only I don't neccessarily want to hang out with him that much. Its not that I don't like him, its just that some people just get a little irritating after a while, and some people just never have anything fun to do. Deep down inside, I'd hate it if i never got to see this friend ever again, but I just don't wanna constantly hang out. Sometimes I just wanna say "DUDE, I LIKE YOU, BUT I DON'T LIKE YOU ENOUGH TO HANG OUT WITH YOU EVERYDAY,SO STOP CALLING ME SO DAMN MUCH!" That would be totally mean, though, I wish there was a polite way of saying that. Can anyone relate to this?

the_offsprings_monkey
01-14-2006, 06:58 PM
Just tell him you do have other friends and that you can't just spend all your time with him.

endlesst0m
01-14-2006, 07:01 PM
Just tell him you do have other friends and that you can't just spend all your time with him.

Yeah, you'd think it would be that easy, but that's definatly something that's easier said than done. Also, what if this person wonders why I don't just invite him to hang out with my other friends? My other friends mostly think he's annoying, so bringing him along is out of the option.

mrconeman
01-14-2006, 07:01 PM
Watch the Cable Guy

endlesst0m
01-14-2006, 07:04 PM
Watch the Cable Guy

Hahaha maybe I will. Jim Carey rules(even though he's an overactor) and I haven't seen that one yet.

Andy
01-14-2006, 07:04 PM
I know exactly what you mean. However, there is no way of getting out of this situation without having to be brutally honest - which is an act that may kill the poor fuck.

JohnnyNemesis
01-14-2006, 07:39 PM
I know exactly what you mean, kid. One of my best friends has NO other friends. Thing is, he never calls me to hang out, but whenever I call him to hang out, he never wants to do anything because he is not used to society. He just wants to stay indoors and play video games all fuckin' day.

We've been friends for 16 years, but I've been fed up with his anti-social shit so much that I haven't hung out with him in the past year and a half. We keep in touch though.

TheUnholyNightbringer
01-14-2006, 07:46 PM
I know it's frustrating Rick, but if you've spent so much of your life not doing it, it's really hard. Most of us are used to just going out and going wherever - for some people even going out the door is excruciating.

All About Eve
01-14-2006, 09:28 PM
What you should do is (Rick or Endless) is tell him you're coming over, then bring like 20 people with you.

Andy
01-14-2006, 09:30 PM
Good thinking! Force him to make new friends

yay
01-15-2006, 12:23 AM
I have one friend like this. He lives very close to me. He NEVER calls me because he is used to things that way. When I call him though he generally wants to do something. What I hated though was when I organised our holiday when we finished school and none of the other 3 guys i brought liked him much, yet he tried to be cool and take there sides whenever we had an argument or anything.

killer_queen
01-15-2006, 04:14 AM
I know those kind of people. I met one last year. She was in the class wich was next to ours. One of my friend in that class told her I liked Offspring and she wanted to meet me because she was one those obsessed Offspring fans. So we met. While we were walking she was fine but when I see another friend she was putting her arm on my shoulder like saying "this girl's mine". God, she is a disaster. Everytime she sees me she asks me to go out and I say no with different reasons. I really don't like her and don't want to be her friend but I don't want to hurt her.

endlesst0m
01-15-2006, 10:16 AM
I know those kind of people. I met one last year. She was in the class wich was next to ours. One of my friend in that class told her I liked Offspring and she wanted to meet me because she was one those obsessed Offspring fans. So we met. While we were walking she was fine but when I see another friend she was putting her arm on my shoulder like saying "this girl's mine". God, she is a disaster. Everytime she sees me she asks me to go out and I say no with different reasons. I really don't like her and don't want to be her friend but I don't want to hurt her.

It almost seems unfair. Why should people like us, who try to be nice to people with no friends, have to suffer such a terrible burden?

The worst was during senior trip...we could only room with 4 people, so I chose 3 of my best friends, and I had to lie and say that I didn't room with him because I didn't like the other kid he wanted to room with that much.

killer_queen
01-15-2006, 10:53 AM
This is not unfair. If you can sleep easily at night you should get rid of them.

Vera
01-15-2006, 11:19 AM
I gladly have no such friends. All my friends have active or semi-active social lives and buds beside me. Am glad about it.

Paint_It_Black
01-15-2006, 11:28 AM
I got stuck with one guy that I didn't like at all. It's not exactly that I disliked him, there was just nothing much to like and he lacked most social skills. A friend of mine kinda dumped him on me. Because I was nice to him he suddenly thought we were best friends. He'd call to hang out every damn day, and just show up if you didn't answer the phone. I really didn't know how to get rid of him without being cruel and it was becoming a serious source of stress for me. Finally he got busted for having kiddie porn on his computer and I used that as an excuse to cut off contact with him. The funny part is, if he was a guy that I really liked I might have overlooked that and hung out with him still. The reason I cut him off was mostly because I just didn't like him and was looking for an excuse. Turns out I got a great excuse.

Preocupado
01-15-2006, 11:28 AM
What you should do is (Rick or Endless) is tell him you're coming over, then bring like 20 people with you.

haha this one cracked me

jillcitrus
01-15-2006, 02:13 PM
yahwell i had a friend like that, only hed just come over and hang out until i had to tell him to leave. so the i pretended i wasnt home whenever he came, and i think he got it. i wonder what happened to that guy...

T-6005
01-15-2006, 02:15 PM
My one friend never wants to hang out with me. So if he doesn't answer his phone, I go to his house. But he doesn't talk to me anymore, ever since kiddie porn was found on my computer.

Paint_It_Black
01-15-2006, 02:15 PM
Jill Citrus? Hey Orange, I think it's destined for you to have a bbs romance.

Paint_It_Black
01-15-2006, 02:17 PM
My one friend never wants to hang out with me. So if he doesn't answer his phone, I go to his house. But he doesn't talk to me anymore, ever since kiddie porn was found on my computer.

Now we know why you're "le sad".

Nina
01-15-2006, 02:25 PM
I can't say I've experienced this. I am not desperate to find out how that is like, though.

JoY
01-15-2006, 03:38 PM
there's usually a reason why some people don't have friends..

my two cents for today.

Revolver-2005?
01-15-2006, 04:58 PM
i remember in like 5th grade there was this kid no one liked, so no one ever let him play soccer with us....so i gave him my goalie position and started talking to him more....

and get this, the dude becomes "too cool" for me and stops talking to me lol...goes to show u people are real assholes

China Boy
01-15-2006, 05:06 PM
I am in a similar situation. It's kind of hard since I have to hang out with him first, then the rest of my friends. I don't have anything against him, I just find it annoying to have to hang out with different people att different times. However, things are patching up and he's getting touch with other people.

My advice is just to wait, lack of social skills is very common, but usually they come eventually, just a couple of years ago I was one of those guys.

voodoomagik
01-15-2006, 05:12 PM
introduce him to some other friends you have! maybe he'll get along with them and extend his area of choice ;)

Igniton
01-15-2006, 05:35 PM
i have the same problem and it seems like everyone else does... does that mean that everyone here has a strong social life?

my story is that i have to sit next to this pokemon kid and he thinks im his best friend because i make fun of him all the time calling him bestest buddy, so i also learned he was retarted, he called me for 2 weeks straight but then i threatened him, so its all good

yay
01-15-2006, 05:55 PM
I am in a similar situation. It's kind of hard since I have to hang out with him first, then the rest of my friends. I don't have anything against him, I just find it annoying to have to hang out with different people att different times. However, things are patching up and he's getting touch with other people.

My advice is just to wait, lack of social skills is very common, but usually they come eventually, just a couple of years ago I was one of those guys.I must admit I had the same one retarded friend all the way until 5th Grade when he left the school in primary. When he left I eventually became mates with a very small group in primary, but I was pretty much seen as weird by most of the grade.

In High School I went from Year 7-9 pretty much with the same couple of friends, until one left the school and I ventured out a bit. Nowadays I see myself as an average person. Although I think my friends are losing respect for me because of my drinking problems.

TheUnholyNightbringer
01-15-2006, 05:57 PM
D..drinking problems?

Andy
01-15-2006, 06:02 PM
D..drinking problems?

Yeah, he misses his mouth

Mota Boy
01-15-2006, 06:07 PM
The Onion knows your pain. (http://www.theonion.com/content/node/28488)

yay
01-15-2006, 09:39 PM
D..drinking problems?Yeah I am the first to admit I have a growing problem. I'm finding myself needing alcohol to enjoy myself nowadays, and I just come out looking like an ass. My friends are having to pull me out of these embaressing situations and look after me to often for my liking now. I think they are losing respect for me.

coke_a_holic
01-15-2006, 09:53 PM
In one of my classes, we had to pick partners at the beginning of the year. I didn't know anyone in my class except for one kid, who was friends with one of my other friends, so when he and I were like the only people left, we had to be partners. About 1/2 way through the year, I find out that he's completely worthless regarding the subject matter and is drunk practically every night and stoned every weekend. He fails a majority of his classes, including the one we're in because he's completely incoherent throughout the entire day with either being drunk or having a hangover.

In other words: I'm stuck working with a burnout for the next semester because I a. don't know anyone else in the class and b. can't just tell the guy I don't want to work with him, because I've swallowed my frustration towards him for the past 4 or 5 months. Bleh.

All About Eve
01-15-2006, 09:58 PM
Do the teachers not notice that he is?

coke_a_holic
01-15-2006, 10:06 PM
They don't really care, they just fail him. All the teachers here are either old and only care about the paycheck, or young and just tell the kids to sit up when they're facedown in their desk. So yeah, they're indifferent on the fact that he has hangovers pretty much every class/every other class.

Nina
01-16-2006, 07:36 AM
there's usually a reason why some people don't have friends..

my two cents for today.

I strongly disagree.

Tizzalicious
01-16-2006, 07:52 AM
I strongly disagree.

Me too. There are more reasons for not having friends than just being a social retard. Sometimes the people who you meet/live near/have a chance to meet aren't your kind of people. Some people don't get to meet new people for various reasons (strict parents, being ill). Some people just aren't good at making friends, because they are to shy to walk up to someone. That doesn't mean they wouldn't be good friends and great people once you knew them.

killer_queen
01-16-2006, 08:13 AM
And some people don't want to be friends with everyone. It's not easy to meet with people. Especially the people you want to hang out. I have a few friends who don't have friends except me and they are the coolest people I've ever known. They just have better things to do instead of talking meaninglessly for hours at a café.

Nina
01-16-2006, 08:46 AM
Combine the last two replies and you have my opinion.
rarr.