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HornyPope
02-24-2006, 12:42 PM
Do you typically close the door after guests or do they close it thesemlves as they leave? Yes, I understand it depends on who are the visitors, but if say five random friends came to visit you on any given week, how many of those times would you close the door yourself after them?

Just curious.

Tizzalicious
02-24-2006, 12:45 PM
I usually talk to them for a while at the door, with them half outside and me leaning against the door...so yes, I close it.

Paint_It_Black
02-24-2006, 12:48 PM
If it's a friend they let themselves out. Anyone else, I see them to the door and close it.

wheelchairman
02-24-2006, 12:49 PM
I see all my friends to the door and close it. It's kind of a need to be a good host type of thing for me.

HornyPope
02-24-2006, 01:30 PM
I'm just observing how this difference in this small habit translates in people's mentality elsewhere.

Rag Doll
02-24-2006, 01:53 PM
I usually talk to them for a while at the door, with them half outside and me leaning against the door...so yes, I close it.

Exactly the same for me.

Andy
02-24-2006, 01:54 PM
I don't really take notice. Although I'm pretty certain I just open the door to leave the guests to come in as they wish, in a "my home is your home" kind of way.

Iddy
02-24-2006, 04:54 PM
I'm just observing how this difference in this small habit translates in people's mentality elsewhere.

I'm curious as to why you're observing...? (feeling a 'lil paranoid).

... i don't know what i do, i've never really noticed or given much thought... i guess i let them do as they please.

nieh
02-24-2006, 04:58 PM
My door closes itself. I win.

0r4ng3
02-24-2006, 04:58 PM
Door closing? Never happened.

sKratch
02-24-2006, 05:19 PM
I kick doors down.

But for real, I will close the door unless it gets closed.

Sinister
02-24-2006, 05:59 PM
Door closing? Never happened.

the joke's getting old.

0r4ng3
02-24-2006, 06:02 PM
It can't get old, because it never happened.

Nineteen Seventy Nine
02-24-2006, 07:59 PM
3/5 times they close the door for themselves. 1/5 times I close the door after them. 1/5 times the door never gets closed.

HornyPope
02-25-2006, 01:46 AM
I'm curious as to why you're observing...? (feeling a 'lil paranoid).



I'm observing and analyzing everything.

But really i've noticed a difference in mentality between them who are very casual with friends and them who are very keen on observing good manners in hosting someone. Just makes it an interesting experiment.

Paint_It_Black
02-25-2006, 02:35 AM
HP, be sure to let us know your conclusions at some point. I'm kinda curious now.

Betty
02-25-2006, 03:03 AM
I think I kinda take the "formal" hosting thing seriously, even with good friends. If they don't live with me, then I have to be a good host!

So unless they let themselves out entirely, I likely close the door... I haven't really paid attention.

Izie
02-25-2006, 03:38 AM
Depending on the person, I usually go out into the hallway with them, bother them some more, and then go back in and duh close the door.

I always close the door otherwise.

Rocky-girl
02-25-2006, 09:01 AM
I see all my friends to the door and close it. It's kind of a need to be a good host type of thing for me.
I think so too. Sometimes we continue our talk near my flat.

endlesst0m
02-25-2006, 10:30 AM
I always wondered, how close does someone have to be to me while i'm opening the door to make me feel obligated to hold it open for them. Sure, if another family is like 10 feet behind you as you open the door to a Pizza Hut, your going to hold the door open. But what about 20 feet? 30 feet? Where do you draw the line?

Andy
02-25-2006, 10:39 AM
A few times I have been made to pay for being gentlemanly. One time I ended up holding the door open for easily 30+ people. It was embarrasing.

Jakebert
02-25-2006, 11:57 AM
That's happened to me a lot of times. It sucks.

Anyway, usually my friends let themselves out, because with friends I let them treat my house like a second home, at least if they've been here a few times. If it's people that haven't been here before, I usually will walk them to the door and stuff.

HornyPope
02-25-2006, 02:09 PM
HP, be sure to let us know your conclusions at some point. I'm kinda curious now.

I don't really seek "conclusions", just observe patterns in how humans behave and think. I could develop on my patterns of course and present it in a text but it's long and i'm lazy. Mostly i'm just happy to know it in my head. But if I find an appropriate way to put the theme in an essay, i'll make sure to post it here.

wheelchairman
02-25-2006, 02:11 PM
I'd be interested actually too. Not just conclusions but general thoughts.

Tizzalicious
02-25-2006, 02:13 PM
What do you do, Vlad?

HornyPope
02-25-2006, 02:18 PM
It's flattering, thank you. But this is not at all a novel concept. I've always over analyzed everything, and each one reaction I observed in a person helped me understand his personality and then I drew associations to other people who reacted in similar manner etc...

And what do you mean, Tizz?

Tizzalicious
02-25-2006, 02:20 PM
I meant if you let them close the door, or do it yourself. Because you didn't answer your own question, which made me wonder if maybe you don't ever have any visitors.

HornyPope
02-25-2006, 02:33 PM
I used to close the door every single time, but now i've grown so casual with certain people that I don't one bit worry about my "host manners". I would still close the door on the majority of occasions (9/10) but just sometimes we'll shake hands and ill wave goodbye and they'll get out of the flat and close the door behind me as I stand maybe a meter away.

Tizzalicious
02-25-2006, 03:04 PM
Hmmm, I don't have any friends who are so at home at my place that I just let them leave without being all host-like.

Paint_It_Black
02-25-2006, 04:35 PM
Ah, when I said conclusions, I didn't mean in something like a scientific manner. Although that would be interesting too. But more just general thoughts that you might have had, regarding the door closing issue and how that tends to correlate to other behaviour.

In other words, now that I've told you that I generally let good friends see themselves out (in a "my home is your home" kind of way), what else can you surmise about my behaviour or character?

the_GoDdEsS
02-25-2006, 04:51 PM
Generally I do. Almost in all cases. I bring the people out, stand in the door or lean against it, talk a little and say good bye. And don't slam it shut right away if it's somebody close to me.

Not Ozymandias
02-25-2006, 05:05 PM
I don't bother with doors, they're just a tool of the bourgoisie to hide their capital from the masses.