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Jakebert
07-30-2008, 08:31 PM
I dain'd this from another board, but it seems like a really interesting topic. But please no "MY PARENTS ARE FUKKIN NAZIS CAUSE I CANT SMOKE POT IN THE HOUSE" crap. Be reasonable.

My parents were incredibly strict when I was younger, to a point where I got grounded for weeks for just swearing. My limit on what TV I could watch was PBS until I was around 9, and only then could I watch Nick and some Cartoon Network, even though I was sneaking in episodes of the Simpsons when my parents weren't around.

Starting when I was like 11, my parents gradually became more lenient by the year. By 14, I basically had a pretty good deal of freedom, although my parents were and still are convinced that I'm a massive pothead and go searching through my room constantly, even when I'm at college, which really strikes me as weird, because I can count the number of times I've smoke on one hand, and I have no idea how they could know about them.

But in terms of other stuff, they weren't bad through high school. They were very lenient with me having girls over, and left me alone for hours when I had girls in my room, for which I'm eternally greatful. I had a curfew once I got my driver's license, but usually it was moveable as long as I asked.

With my younger sister, though, they've been so lenient that I've been betting that she's going to end up pregnant by the time she graduates high school. She blatantly sneaks around behind their backs, and they don't care at all.

Ryder1234
07-30-2008, 08:41 PM
Well, I thought my parents were really strict until I read that. But in my mind, they were pretty strict when I was little. I wasn't allowed to watch shows like the Simpsons and the other similar style shows of the time. I also wasn't allowed to say "Oh my God" until I was about 10. I'm a little shy, and I attribute it to not being to go anywhere with my friends unless we had a parent with us. Still now, I'm only allowed to go places by myself/with friends unless I have my cellphone on me. Despite all the bad things I did, I had only been grounded once In my life, for putting potato chips on the sidewalk in my backyard and spraying them with water (cause they dissolved and when they hardened they were hard to get off). In March, though, I was grounded for a month for being with my friends while they were smoking weed at school. Only because it was at school though.

There's probably more things they did that I can't think of now.

Llamas
07-30-2008, 08:45 PM
When I lived at home last fall, at the ripe age of 23, my mom gave me a curfew (and wouldn't give me a key, and locked the doors after said curfew). She told me where I couldn't go, and would search my room. If I ever smelled like smoke or alcohol, she'd freak out. She asked me daily about my job, and kept asking me if I got fired (wtf?) She asked me where I was going and who with every time I left the house, and then would get really upset that I didn't spend enough time at home. She even controlled what I watched on tv or movies- I once was watching a movie that's in German, so she couldn't understand any of it... but one scene showed a couple in bed together. She made me turn it off, and then told my sister later that "Brianna watches naughty movies".

And she's gotten MUCH more lenient since I was in high school.

Living at home last year really did nottt last long, let me tell you.

Tom
07-30-2008, 09:01 PM
Not at all.

I don't understand it. I can leave my house at 1:00am on school nights. All I have to do is let her know that I'm leaving - I don't have to explain what I'm doing.

Let's just say she's lucky I'm not into drugs or anything, it would be far too easy. She was this trustworthy before I was going to college for policing. I can do whatever I want, when I want.

Sometimes I wish I had stricter parents because maybe I'd be closer with them? I have no idea. I just have a weird relationship with mine. We never fight but we also never hang out or talk about random shit either. It's weird... it's almost like I only live with them.

Rag Doll
07-30-2008, 09:06 PM
My parents are really lenient. When I was like 9 I'd play manhunt outside with friends until like midnight. As long as my mom knew I was somewhere in the neighborhood, it was cool. I've never been grounded. I've never had a curfew. I can't recall a situation in which I wasn't allowed to go somewhere or hang out with someone. My room has never been searched. My internet habits have never been monitored. I could always watch whatever I wanted (outside of porn, obvs). And when it came to the music, they were annoyed by me listening to NSYNC, but actively encouraged Aerosmith, Green Day, the Offspring, etc etc etc.

My mom always let me have boys in the house and in my room, but wasn't ok with the door being closed or them sleeping over until I was 19ish. Though, my last boyfriend had his own apartment and I routinely spent weekends with him and she didn't care. I guess her philosophy was she didn't care, as long as it wasn't going on while she was in the house. Now, my current boyfriend pretty much lives at my house (spends 5-6 nights a week here, is here when I am not, cooks dinner, has a key, has half my dresser as his own, etc).....and she doesn't care (though, I'm 22, soooo...).

She knew I drank underage and just told me to not drive and not get caught. Plus, she took me to get my first tattoo at 16 and took me to get my tongue pierced at 17 (and paid for both!). She's always been cool with that stuff (except she freaked when I got my nipples pierced, because she thinks it seems painful/gross).


*Note: I don't mention my dad at all because he has no say. My mom is totally the supreme ruler of the house.

nieh
07-30-2008, 09:34 PM
O hai.

My parents were bizarrely strict/protective up until a year or two into high school. There was no logic or consistency to it, because I'd have a lot more freedom in some respects than most people, but I'd get grounded for odd things. I was once grounded for using a rope swing in a field near my friend's house, I would be grounded for Cs on my report card, the first time my mom took my brother to a concert she got out of the car and popped any balloons in the area before setting her son loose with the people whose (possible) drugs she just destroyed. During high school though things lightened up for the most part. I never had a curfew, I was allowed to do pretty much whatever I wanted even when I was supposed to be grounded. The only oddness that carried over from before was whenever I was sick my dad would assume I was faking and if I stayed home from school he'd make me do chores the whole day, and the fact that anytime my dad wanted chores done he would make me do them instead of my brother because "he had work today" or "he had school today" even if the same was true of me.

Jakebert
07-30-2008, 09:39 PM
Well, balloons are one of the worst influences on a child's behavior.

Mota Boy
07-30-2008, 10:08 PM
I could never watch TV or use the computer (back in the days before the internets, the operative verb was "play the computer", and I wore an onion on my belt, which was the style at the time) on weekdays, so I had to wait until we got a new TV and put the old one in the basement so I could sneak down and watch "The Simpsons" there, volume turned down really low. My parents didn't like me saying swear-ish words, like "crap", "crud" or "suck". My siblings and I were, on occasion, spanked with a belt. I was restricted as to what movies I could watch for a while.

In high school, I didn't have a curfew, but my parents wanted me to wake them up when I returned, which was sneaky. I came home drunk once and, annoyed that I had to get them up, went into their bedroom and turned on all the lights before shaking them gently. It scared the shit out of my dad and they never asked me to do that again, but they always wanted to know the truth about where I was and who I was with. They started not caring about whether or not I drank once senior year of high school rolled around, even younger for my siblings. They know I have smoke pot, and don't really care as long as I don't abuse it.

mrconeman
07-30-2008, 10:09 PM
My parents were never strict at all really which is great. I mean if I ever fuck up they make it known, but it all blows over really quickly.

My dad moved out when I was like 6/7 though, so I guess he may have been stricter living here. I've been more or less able to come and go as I please since I was 13, except one time at 17 I was gone for like 30 some hours and couldn't call home...she rang the cops, and I got bitched at for weeks, understandably.

My mum + dad have been fine with me drinking since I was 17, I do wonder if they know I drank kind of way before that (and no, that's not boasting, I'm not proud of it.) My dad found out Ismoke weed here and there a few months ago and just said "he could do much worse." Which I fully agree with...nothing wrong with the odd joint.

Generally its fucking sweet having chill parents, I think it's pretty much because they done everything and more when they were my age. I mean my mum will go mental here and there over really stupid shit, but they all do.

Jakebert
07-30-2008, 10:50 PM
Drinking and sex are weird issues with my parents. They have to know that I drink, but it's never been brought up by them or me, and they've even given me extra money in cash a few times when I came home from school for the weekend, seemingly for alcohol.

For sex, I think they suspect I've had it, but don't want to bring it up because of the awkwardness of the situation, which is fine with me. Kind of a don't ask-don't tell kind of thing.

Vera
07-30-2008, 11:57 PM
My mum is overprotective to the point of annoying but never strict. On the other hand, I was a pretty good kid, I tried smoking but never began it, I tried drinking but only got drunk for the first time when I was 17 and to this day seldom get drunk. I got to watch things that were on late at night (like zomg, Buffy the Vampire Slayer!) when I was like 8-9 and I was allowed on the computer (and teh internets) when around 13 (before that age I did go online but I didn't care). I didn't want to watch any of the REALLY R-rated violent movies or movies with sex so restricting those was generally not a huge problem.

Nowadays it's the sort of annoying "omg my daughter of 21 sometimes goes out and drinks with her friends!" attitude where she occasionally treats me like I'm 10 yrs old and then sometimes assumes me to know adults would know (like how to accurately fill out some forms to send to government officials and stuff). But yeah, definitely lenient. Dad's the same, though obviously, I haven't spent that much time with him (as I lived with mum most of the time).

adombomb222
07-31-2008, 12:12 AM
As I am my mother's third child, she doesn't really give a shit anymore... My oldest sister had it the worse and my younger sister had it kind of bad... but me, nothing. I shoot up heroine in the living room; have crazy sex parties, stay out all hours of the night... Sometimes I DONT EVEN COME HOME!

But really, I do have the most freedom amongst what my sisters had at my age. My mom trusts me enough to where she doesn’t check my room for drugs (I also do not do drugs... so there's nothing to find). My curfew is 12AM. And I must call in if I'm going to hang out after school, otherwise I should be home around 4. And my mom doesn't really care about me have girls over. I've also been allowed to stay home alone for an extended period of time since I was 11. Last time I was home alone, literally alone, my aunts and uncles nor my grandfather didn't come and check up on me, my mom was gone fore like a week and a half.

KyleW
07-31-2008, 03:49 AM
I really thought my parents were total bitches until I read this thread. Now they seem really lienient (sp). I never really had a cerfue but I am usualy in aound 10-11pm (btw I'm 16.) They have no issues with girls over since I have had "The Talk" *shudder* and when they go out they invite me to invite my girlfriend over :confused:. They were never EVER strict on movies, tv, internet etc. I could watch whatever I wanted. When my dad caught my brother watching porn his response was "At least he isn't gay". They never go away from town for more than like 6 hours at a time so the home alone issue has never come up. I naver never been searched for drugs and I have never done drugs so that issue has never come up. They know I drink and although they dont openly encourage it they dont have a real issue. (They like to pretend Im perfectly fine and when I think Ive got away with it the next morning I get showered with "You were drunk last night, wernt you..."

However there are a couple of typical parental nags that they have. They argue a LOT and take it out on my and my brother a lot which is kinda unfair but its not a big deal. Also they would ground me for crazy things. If Im out until 10:30 for 5 nights its fine but if im out untill 10:30 for 6 nights OH NOES! Also when I was younger I could go and stay at my friends house and they could stay at my house but now im "too old for sleepovers" :(

But all in all my parents are pretty cool. I wouldnt trade em for anything.... :rolleyes: :D

gala
07-31-2008, 04:16 AM
My parents have never been strict, they just tell me what time I have to be home, and forbid me to use my motorbike when it's dark.. but they are quite lenient

WebDudette
07-31-2008, 04:44 AM
I live with my dad, he basically DGAF's as long as I tell him roughly where I am.

I'll elaborate later but right now I'm kind of drunk and just got home at 3am, basically he asked me why I didn't put the sprinkler on the lawn.

Paint_It_Black
07-31-2008, 07:23 AM
My parents are somewhat awesome. Neither of them were strict with me, though they didn't really need to be. I was a good kid. I generally treated them with respect, didn't ask for much and did well in school. So all I had to do was make sure they never found out about all the illegal shit I was up to. It worked out pretty well.

I could get away with swearing in front of my parents, though it just felt so weird that I avoided it. And mostly still do. They also didn't seem to have any real problem with alcohol. And I found my mum's stash of cannabis once, so that mostly took care of that issue. Not that I was ever really in to the stuff, and she claimed hers helped her arthritis...

They were very disappointed when I started smoking cigarettes, but still cool about it. In general the desire to not disappoint my parents kept me in line more than any forced discipline.

Looking back now I think only a few things would have really bothered them. One of the big things would have been announcing that I am gay. I guess my mum worried about that for a while. But then again she tends to worry about everything.

The most annoying thing for me growing up was that we lived out in the country and they didn't usually want to take me in to town to hang out with my friends. That's really my only complaint. They didn't try to control what I watched on TV or what I did with my computer (I was 16 by the time I had one anyway). They didn't care what books I was reading (though when I was about 12 I had to ask them to take a Stephen King book away from me because it was traumatizing me but I couldn't stop reading it). I did have a "bedtime" on school nights until I was 15 or 16, but I generally agreed with it anyway.

If I ever have kids of my own I'm going to be somewhat more strict. But I'm also going to be much more involved with their daily lives and hopefully be able to judge effectively what areas I need to be strict about. Example: No Stephen King books until they're ready.

wheelchairman
07-31-2008, 07:37 AM
While living in America my parents weren't strict in the traditional American sense. I mean all of my siblings on an early age would watch Bruce Willis, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Steven Seagal with my father (and this was the early 90's mind you, so they cursed all the time and there was a lot of blood). I can't really remember any rules, just come home in time for dinner or call, stuff like that.

In Denmark when we first moved here it was a bit different, I think they got a bit of parental culture shock when like half of my 15 year old friends were smokers now. So they became a bit more restrictive in a weird sense. Like if I went out drinking I had to be back before 1 am. Or I couldn't drink on school nights. Both of which are rules my little sister doesn't have to follow. Although I think she maintains a relatively straight and narrow path.

Now I drink with my parents all the time and smoke cigarettes with my dad. My dad however would freak out if he knew I've tried weed. My mother doesn't really care.

EDIT: On a weird nostalgic note, my best friend from when I was in kindergarten to the 8th grade came and visited me a few days ago. He, my little brother and myself got stoned together at the Copenhagen Commons. It was quite funny. Also because that was the first time I smoked with my brother.

batfish
07-31-2008, 09:03 AM
Being a first-born girl is bad luck. Not only am I more rape-able than my younger brother, I am also the guinea-pig. Rules were stricter because they hadn't been parents to a teenager before and wanted to cover all eventualities.

Consequently I was a pretty sheltered kid. I didn't mind at the time; I didn't know any different. The first year of living away from home has made me realise I'm really not very wordly-wise, about stuff like getting on with different sorts of people, and living in a city, and sex.

My parents are inconsistent: drinking at 14 was a-ok (they even buy my 15 year old brother and his mates alcohol) but computer games at the same age? No way! They let me go to a Green Day concert till 1am the night before my French GCSE exam but going into town with mates was restricted.

They were helped by the fact that I wanted to be good. Not a goody-two-shoes, but I had no desire to take drugs or stay out ridiculously late. I'd just lie about things like going into town and if they realised, they didn't say.

I get on with them pretty well. I think they did a good job and I'd follow a lot of their advice when I ever have kids.

Tizzalicious
07-31-2008, 10:24 AM
My parents were never strict. They didn't let me do everything I wanted, and I sure did think they were strict back then, but I guess it DOES make sense that you don't want your 13 year old daughter biking home from a school part at 1 a.m. with only one other female friend.

I guess all the things I felt they were strict about make perfect sense to me now. I think they handled it just right. They had their rules, but they weren't so crazy that I turned into some crazy mustdocrazyshittorebelagainststrict parents kind of person.

When I got older, they just liked to know where I was, and when I'd be back, just so they'd know. Staying over somewhere was never a problem either, as long as I let them know. And people were always welcome here.

When my ex come over from England the first time he wasn't allowed to sleep in my room, but he did anyway of course. My mom had to get her bag from the room he slept in one morning, so she noticed he wasn't there. I never heard anything about it, except a note on the kitchen table: "I noticed Lee wasn't sleeping in the spare room when I went to get my bag." with on the backside: "P.S. Do you think about the morning after pill if you need it?" ZOMG.

Little_Miss_1565
07-31-2008, 11:44 AM
My dad moved out when I was 12 so I ended up having to step up into something of a second parent role early on because my one sister was a hyperactive out of control beast, and the other was a tee-tiny adorable sweet waif. Mom started letting me swear and such around her because I think she was trying to let me express my anger at my dad, but it stuck and soon enough the baby was following my example, swearing like a truck driver. Once I got into high school my mom tried to get all parenty and freak out about where I was, riding in cars with friends home from football games, and all that even though I was the tamest lamest nerd who ever nerded. She eventually got over it, and the sister who actually needed that overprotectiveness the most didn't get it at all because I'd broken mom in. I'm the oldest, so I guess that was my duty to shoulder. Now the youngest gets to do whatever she likes. Lame.

Betty
07-31-2008, 12:29 PM
My parents are great. I'm really happy with how I was raised.

They weren't particularly strict with me, and I was the first child so probably got the strictest treatment of their four kids. My younger siblings were pretty much allowed to run wild.

I was allowed to stay out with friends until reasonable times (9 or 10 when I was really young, midnight when I was say 13-14, and pretty much whenever as soon as I was 17-18). They wanted to know where I was/who I was with and all that, and for the most part I was honest.

I never heard my parents swear in front of me until I was like 19 or 20. It must have rubbed off, 'cause I couldn't bring myself to use the "f-word" until... probably until at least university. I definitely couldn't say it in high school cause my friends would be all "oh my god, Michelle swore." I slowly worked it into my vocabulary.

We could watch whatever we wanted when we were young. We never really had rules against TV, or video games, or whatever. But I don't think it was ever an issue. I watched TV and played video games a lot, I remember. But in the summer we played outside at the park or on our bikes or in the woods ALL THE TIME. And I read A LOT too. And did all my homework, etc. So I think we ended up well-rounded naturally, without discipline being involved.

They were okay with underage drinking. My parents started letting me drink a beer or two with them when I was around 15-16. And it was okay if they knew I drank with my friends sometimes. We never got into too much trouble cause we were good kids. Now that I'm away from home, my parents have bonfire parties all the time with my siblings and their friends, some of whom are underage. But my mom's pretty good at being responsible with the younger ones.

I could date boys and they were really good about it and treated them like their own kids. We were allowed to be in my room with the door open. We had safe sex talks and whatnot so that was dealt with at some point. They were weird about that in that even when I had been living on my own in university for years, if I brought a boyfriend home, we had to sleep in separate beds. Only this last Christmas did my mom convince my dad to let my boyfriend I brought home and I to sleep in the same room. I remember we were washing my sister's sheets (it was her room) and they had little horses on them and my mom makes a comment and goes "Yeehaw!" That was embarrassing.

They were kind of strict about chores. I think part of that was that both my parents worked 50-60 hour weeks and honestly needed us to help them out around the house with errands and cleaning. When we were younger we had chores lists and got $10 weekly allowances or thereabouts. That dissolved when we were a bit older and got newspaper routes. Most of our "family talks" where we got in trouble were about "helping out around the house." We also used to get into trouble a lot when my mom was working night shifts and we were too loud in the morning/early afternoon and my mom woke up. That was a rocky period.

They let us use the vehicles as soon as we got our licences. It was kinda shitty before that because they didn't give us rides all that often. Which in retrospect is semi-reasonable, because they were so busy. All of the kids had a job at 15, and there were two cars, and with extracurricular activites and social lives and errands, things were pretty hectic for a family of six. My mom also always got mad about "last minute plans," which is also reasonable cause she always had to keep track of everybody's plans to keep things functioning.

I think overall my parents led by example, and were able to be pretty liberal with us because we were good kids. We turned out extremely independent, financially and otherwise, and I think that might be one of the most important things they instilled in us from a young age.

Thomas
07-31-2008, 12:58 PM
My parents weren't as bad as jimmy's from Bubble Boy, but it's kinda the same idea. My mom would freak out about some really strange things and my dad would just kinda be, "Yeah, whatever. Go ahead." Both of my parents took a really active role in raising me, though.

I'm sure they raised me well, but there must have been something along the way that went a little...off. Like, looking back at my middle school experience, holy shit, I had some bizarre problems back then. I was very shy, anti-social, and some of the stories and stuff that conjured up in my head late at night were just plain wrong. I was weird. I don't know if it was the fact that they were somewhat strict with me when I was little or not.

Around my junior yeear of high, school, though, when I finally got my driver's license, I got my first girlfriend (it took a while for me to "recover" from middle school) and we would go out after every home football game for icecream or whatever. Slowly, I started coming home later and later, until finally it got to the point where I can come in a 3 in the morning and they don't really care.

My parents trust me a whole lot. I don't drink, I don't smoke, (I never get invited to all the cool parties...teh sadz...), and I'm a very safe/careful driver. They know most of my friends pretty well and they know I'm not gonna get in any trouble. My mom can still be pretty over-protective, though. She gets scared way too much, and she has admitted it, too.

Actually, I am home alone this week and, as far as they know, I've just been hanging out at home with my dogs. If they find out that I've had my girlfriend over to spend the night 3 times this week (my girlfriend's mom is actually not strict enough, which is kinda cool, but I think it'll end up hurting her in the long run) then I am genuinely screwed in ways I don't even want to imagine. My dad can be really scary (he made the lead singer of my old band nearly go into tears once for his antics on stage, which was really no big deal at all).

Conspiracyof1000
07-31-2008, 02:42 PM
My parents aren't strict, there's no defined set of rules in the house, but up until last year they were super-protective. Coming from a low-populated area with it's own elementary school, middle school was my first experience with the truly horrible things about being social. Before that I wasn't even allowed to leave the house alone, not even to go to the mailbox, which is a minute long walk away from the house. Then, starting last year (I guess entering high school let my dad know I'm not ten anymore) I gained more freedom. I can stay up as late as I want. I can leave the house as long as I say where I'm going and come back before dark. I can watch whatever I want, and swear sometimes.
But still, being overprotected all those years, I feel that I don't know how to act around people. After getting a job I feel I'm getting better, but it still sucks being at parties (I've been to one...) and not knowing how to socialize.
Still, I love my parents. Great people, great people...

GBH2
07-31-2008, 03:35 PM
i've had the privelage of having an older sister who is the drunken pot smoker degenerate of the family, and has sort of desensitized my parents to that sort of thing. i can get around any curfew, and they wouldn't believe i drink if i told them...

Tired_Of_You
07-31-2008, 03:40 PM
My parents divorced when I was 4, and I lived with my mother.

My father is way overprotective, but is not really strict. He'd let me watch wathever I wanted to watch on TV (not porn obviously...), I had the right to sleep at wathever hour I'd want to, had the right to swear, etc. However, like I said, he was always overprotective, and even today (I'm 20), when I visit him and I want to go somewhere, he insists on going with me (and it's not because he wants to go or needs to), when I leave, he asks me to call him as soon as I arrive, etc.

As for my mother, she was not really strict. I think she was even less strict before my ex-step-father lived with us. I didn't have the right to swear when I was young. I had a bed time during part of high school (until I was 15 I think), but I didn't always follow it and it was later than some. I sorta had a curfew, but if I asked to come back later and if she knew where I was, there was no problem. However, I drank and smoked for the first time at a pretty young age and while she probably didn't know I did until I was a little older, she didn't mind too much. I think she knew I was pretty responsible, and I always had good marks at school, etc. Anyway, as far as I know, she did more stuff than me. As for television, I don't remember any restrictions.

It's funny to hear some of you couldn't listen to The Simpsons when you were young. I've only ever known one person who couldn't (and her parents were crazy, she didn't have the right to do anything) watch that until she was at least 12-13 years old.

F@ BANKZ
07-31-2008, 03:47 PM
"The Talk" *shudder*

*Shudders*

My parents are not strict per se. After seeing how all my brother's wild adventures troubled them so I have taken up the role of the quiet child, so I a slightly shorter leash. I work hard when I have to and I don't as a rule stay out too late, take heroine, drive-by on some fools or consume much alcohol (consequently I am probably very, very uninteresting at times). Since my brother has gone through the crazy hair, drinking, partying etc... process my parents seem to be of the view they're driving on a flat road with me.

I am hectically disorganised and it sometimes triggers arguments, and I have an unfortunate condition of being unable to control my intonation when I am angry/petulant which can lead to additional shouting. Shouting is really the only punishment I have ever been subjected to (I really hate it though), often my parents had aspirations to ground me but were not overly concerned the next day.

My parents are now actually encouraging me to drink more; they drink most days and my father's family in particular is heinously disappointed in me. After seeing my brother have a terrible accident once though (of which I shall spare you the details) I am hesitant to binge. So, there really isn't anything to say about my parents. If I am out of line I will get shouted at, if I remonstrate I will get shouted at for a longer period of time, if I leave home I will, hypothetically, get shouted at when I return.

Edit: I never had "the talk" *shudders*. I always managed to digress whenever the conversation steered that way, at any rate it's still all a mystery to me.

Short_Attention_Span
07-31-2008, 05:39 PM
My parents aren't strict. I had a curfew, but I rarely went anywhere (my friends and I were AP dorks, with families that put school first!) so it didn't matter. As far as I know, the only problem came up when my mom read the lyrics to AFI's Sing the Sorrow and wanted to talk to me about what they meant. This happened when I was thirteen. She didn't take the Cd away though. They're pretty open minded about most things, and are pretty approachable. It's like, "we WANT you to understand our position, why such and such happens." There's a mutual respect thing going on in our family. And a lot of ripping on each other.

The only time I feel the need to be on the defensive is when I'm with my extended family, where they don't understand why I'm so apathetic towards college. God, I hate college.
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IamSam
07-31-2008, 07:32 PM
I didn't watch anything non-Disney (except Indiana Jones) until 8th grade and then I got to see the James Bond movies. I was forced to listen to only Christian music and couldn't be out after 9pm.

Parents divorced my 10th grade year and I became free because my mother was cool. Yay for me.

Paint_It_Black
08-01-2008, 07:26 AM
He'd let me watch wathever I wanted to watch on TV (not porn obviously...)

Why do people keep saying that? I don't find it obvious at all. I mean, we're talking about TV here. All you're gonna get is softcore porn anyway, unless some of you live in a paradise with free hardcore porn on your television sets. My parents never had any issue with me watching any naughty stuff. In fact, I was the one embarrassed if something like that happened to come on while my parents were around. They didn't seem bothered at all. In fact my mum would make funny yet horribly embarrassing comments.

wheelchairman
08-01-2008, 07:54 AM
Denmark has hardcore porn on tv.

But only after midnight.

It's called Kanal (Channel) Copenhagen, lol Anal Copenhagen.

Tired_Of_You
08-01-2008, 10:58 AM
Why do people keep saying that? I don't find it obvious at all. I mean, we're talking about TV here. All you're gonna get is softcore porn anyway, unless some of you live in a paradise with free hardcore porn on your television sets. My parents never had any issue with me watching any naughty stuff. In fact, I was the one embarrassed if something like that happened to come on while my parents were around. They didn't seem bothered at all. In fact my mum would make funny yet horribly embarrassing comments.

Because he only had one tv, which was in the small living room of his small apartment, which meant that when I went to see him, we'd be most probably in the living room, both of us. I would have been embarrassed anyway.

I didn't explain that, because I thought these were unimportant details, for me it was obvious that at a pretty young age, he wouldn't want me to (and he'd be probably watching tv with me anyway...). Furthermore, I didn't want to see any of it... I just wanted to clarify what I couldn't/wouldn't watch.

lost_nvrfound
08-01-2008, 09:06 PM
My upbringing had the consistency of overcooked grits.

Somedays I'd get away with skipping class to hang out downtown and others I'd be grounded for three weeks for being a day behind on a minor project.

Paint_It_Black
08-02-2008, 04:05 AM
I didn't explain that, because I thought these were unimportant details

Yeah, they are. And I wasn't attacking you or anything. But I was genuinely curious why people seem to generally think it's obvious that parents would be against their kids watching porn.

If I ever have kids I won't care if they watch porn. There's far worse things they could be doing. Plus, it's educational, from a certain perspective.

calichix
08-03-2008, 06:38 AM
No way. We'd get smacked upside the head for bad manners but I never had a curfew, they didn't get involved in any kind of school things, never got grounded or whatever, got laughed at at most for stealing liquor or coming home high.. I've found that kids with strict parents are the one who go buckwild and get into all kinds of crazy shit. Me and my siblings all ended up good kids because there was no novelty in doing anything bad. At high school parties with girls puking and people doing hellamuch blow and stuff like it's sooo novel all of us were like, "I'm too old for this shit." When we experiment we do it for ourselves for the most part maturely, not like goofy tools. But none of us are in good schools or give a shit about our educations enough to become something. sohmmmm

Tired_Of_You
08-03-2008, 10:04 AM
Yeah, they are. And I wasn't attacking you or anything. But I was genuinely curious why people seem to generally think it's obvious that parents would be against their kids watching porn.

If I ever have kids I won't care if they watch porn. There's far worse things they could be doing. Plus, it's educational, from a certain perspective.I didn't think you were attacking me, and didn't want to sound like that. I understand your point of view better now. Other people may have other reasons than me, though, and could possibly have a better answer to your question as to why it should be obvious.