View Full Version : On complaining and complainers

11-23-2012, 10:43 AM
I've observed that society is very judgmental when another person complains. It seems there is a lot of emphasis placed on whether or not a person has the "right" to complain based on the perceived level of difficulty of their life.

Personally, it has frequently rubbed me the wrong way when someone goes out of their way to call someone out on what they deem unnecessary or excessive complaining. From a perspective of motivation, I've always wondered what's really behind the act of doing so. I've always felt that the person doing this is actually just finding a subtle way to bolster themselves in front of everyone by implying that they are above complaining. My stance is: if someone is constantly making bad decisions and then bitching about their life as if they have no idea why they're getting bad results, then I can see calling them out on it. But aside from that, what is the motivation to police the complaining of others?

Also, is there a difference between "venting" and "complaining"? As I'm sure you've noticed, it seems that there's a perception that venting is more acceptable.

11-23-2012, 12:14 PM
Well, venting is often a way to decompress and analyze one's issues. Complaining is a random rant about how people or things don't work like they do in la-la land. For examples:
"The soldier had some beers with friends so they could vent about their war effort. And,
"The 12-year-old complained that real life isn't close enough to Halo."
Make sense?

"Melyssa K" Kennedy
11-23-2012, 08:26 PM
If you are trying to call me out, don't be a wuss. I don't complain most of the time because I know other people don't want to hear it. If I started complaining about shit, would you really wanna hear about it? No, you wouldn't. Why do you care what the motives are behind someone who complains about other people complaining? How does their "motive" affect you?

11-23-2012, 11:12 PM
I am annoyed by people who say things like 'oh, how can you worry about that when there are children dying in Africa' or 'American are freaking out about Hostess while Gaza is being bombed'. I actually saw the second one, and while I think this whole Hostess thing is fucking silly, that shit doesn't fly with me. There are any number of wars or conflicts happening everyday, tons of people dying every second, you can't expect people to give a shit about all of that, or to base their lives and sorrow around all the sadness and grief in the world.

Anyway, this song, listen to it:


You don't have it any better and you don't have it any worse.
You're an irreplaceable human soul with your own understanding of what it means to suffer.
And thatís a huge fucking bummer.