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MindlessSelfIndulgent
03-01-2005, 03:07 AM
Atleast i can. I like being alone. Sometimes. When i dont, im not. But some people always tell me that i should be more social. Cause its good, and thats it. Why? I dont like hanging around people i have nothing to talk about with. Or people that i just dont like, so why the fuck should i? I socialise with the people i like. Some people just dont understand that. They asume that when im sitting alone in my room, im lonely. So they always come knocking on my door telling me "Coooome ooon, lets do this and that, itll be fuuun?!+!?one". No it wont, i dont like you, leave me alone, moron.

ninth
03-01-2005, 03:11 AM
I spend more than thirty hours alone a week.

Inshane
03-01-2005, 03:29 AM
There will always be people telling/showing you whats normal and what isn't.
Some people need a whole social life to feel loved, happy. If they find that way of life so comforting its hard for them to understand that being alone isnt lonely at all. They are right at the point that when you like to be alone a lot, you'll have a more 'lonely life'. But that doesnt mean your life can't be fun or nice. I think you can be surrounded by a milion people and still feel lonely.

Im kind of a loner/individualist whatever you may call it,
not that I have chosen to be like that, its more because I turned out to be.
Ill admit, two years ago I wished I had more friends, so I could try having a social life. But I have always been an honest explosion of opinions. And most people don't want to know the truth.

JoY
03-01-2005, 06:50 AM
I like a lot of people around me, most of the times.
I used to LOVE being alone, all by myself, doing my thing. (drawing, painting, playing the violin, playing the piano, playing with dolls & lego...) I used to hate being on stage, where everyone could criticize me in every possible way.

somehow all of that changed; I now love to perform on stage with the gypsy-band, I hate it to be the only one who's at home, if I eat alone, I simply don't eat, because I refuse to cook just for myself... I grew into a people-person. I can't handle big crowds very well, but I like being surrounded by people. I can make myself vanish, if I want to, but I can choose to be noticable. & I also like to talk to random people & strangers. I'm odd like that.

Trip Boy
03-01-2005, 06:53 AM
I love parting with my friends, but sometimes being alone is alot more peaceful

original_psycho
03-01-2005, 07:45 AM
I like loneliness. Sitting all by myself listening to music and thinking about stuff. But I like being around people too. So, I'm not like 'Go to hell, I wanna be alone, so fuck off' or anything like that. But I prefer loneliness and I never feel alone.

Nina
03-01-2005, 07:50 AM
for some reason i read "you can be lonely without being alone".
and to that i would have fully agreed with.

HornyPope
03-01-2005, 07:57 AM
Seek a good company, not a large one.

HornyPope
03-01-2005, 07:58 AM
Wow I came out sounding like a fortune cookie.

MindlessSelfIndulgent
03-01-2005, 08:10 AM
Well Nina thats true too.


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I have nothing against large companies, as long as its people i like and/or i find interesting. Sometimes i just like to be alone. Not even alot. But still some people dont get the fact that if i dont want to be alone, i wont be. Theyre just wasting my time, and theirs. And telling them doesnt help either.
Hah, im such a whiner.

Nina
03-01-2005, 08:21 AM
I have nothing against large companies, as long as its people i like and/or i find interesting. Sometimes i just like to be alone. Not even alot. But still some people dont get the fact that if i dont want to be alone, i wont be. Theyre just wasting my time, and theirs. And telling them doesnt help either.
Hah, im such a whiner.

i dont think you are a whiner at all.
thats always the problem with the majority of people: they'll do what
they think is right and good, without caring for what the other person
might actually want to do. nobody listens. :/
i've never seen the world be any different to that.
i guess you need to find a way to deal with that....but dont ask me
what that could be, i have the same problem and tend to just avoid
people instead of really *solving* the problem...which isnt exactly
a method i'd recomment :x

MindlessSelfIndulgent
03-01-2005, 08:30 AM
i dont think you are a whiner at all.
thats always the problem with the majority of people: they'll do what
they think is right and good, without caring for what the other person
might actually want to do. nobody listens. :/
i've never seen the world be any different to that.
i guess you need to find a way to deal with that....but dont ask me
what that could be, i have the same problem and tend to just avoid
people instead of really *solving* the problem...which isnt exactly
a method i'd recomment :x

Well thank you, that helped actually. Ive been avoiding them too, but its kinda hard since i live with some of these people.. And its just too much sometimes.

the_GoDdEsS
03-05-2005, 01:28 AM
I have my moments when I need and love being alone. Especially when I need my peace.
Then again I need people around me too, people I like and there's not many of them. When I'm around strangers I tend to want attention. I'm a very strange mix of an introvert in an extrovert. If that makes any sense.

This thread is good. Therefore *bumps*

Aimeht
03-05-2005, 01:37 AM
I'm alone very often, cause I live in my own apartment. But even if I'm in a room full of people and friends I still can feel alone.