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Isolated Fury
04-08-2005, 09:19 PM
Why do you say it? It's not like it will make anything better. "...but I still want to be your friend." What kind of person would want to be your friend after you ripped the heart straight out of his chest? It's just wrong...

And why is there always a wait to break the news? You wait 2 weeks to tell him that you're not interested in him like you used to be. Do you even know what that does to a person? It kills him. He starts believing he's a waste of time, that no one will ever want to be his significant other ever again.

I just want answers. Don't feel bad, just answer.

dirtybird
04-08-2005, 09:28 PM
I just want answers. Don't feel bad, just answer.


1 + 2 = 3... I'm almost POSITIVE that's a right answer...

Isolated Fury
04-08-2005, 09:30 PM
1 + 2 = 3... I'm almost POSITIVE that's a right answer...

Go to Hell...I don't need your shit right now.

(I'm sorry if I am being harsh at all. It is not meant literally.)

GreenTerror
04-08-2005, 09:32 PM
You should write stuff.

Isolated Fury
04-08-2005, 09:33 PM
You should write stuff.

I'm afraid I don't understand.

Homer
04-08-2005, 09:33 PM
1 + 2 = 3... I'm almost POSITIVE that's a right answer...

Ah! Thanks! Now I can finally finish my math!

dirtybird
04-08-2005, 09:34 PM
Ah! Thanks! Now I can finally finish my math!

I said almost.. I'm not sure, though.

Homer
04-08-2005, 09:41 PM
I said almost.. I'm not sure, though.

oh damnit. That's REALLY gonna help. My homework's due tomorrow!

dirtybird
04-08-2005, 09:42 PM
I got it! Check the dictionary!

Homer
04-08-2005, 09:55 PM
But it says nothing of math!

dirtybird
04-08-2005, 09:56 PM
Did you look under 'math'? :rolleyes: It would be under M, not =.

Homer
04-08-2005, 10:02 PM
damnit..... thanks for helping me out there. I was about to break down and cry.... again.

dirtybird
04-08-2005, 10:03 PM
* Phew *

Homer
04-08-2005, 10:05 PM
* Phew * indeed..... * Phew * indeed.......

dirtybird
04-08-2005, 10:06 PM
Now on to English... where do we look for help on that?!

Homer
04-08-2005, 10:09 PM
uh.... France?

ruroken
04-08-2005, 10:10 PM
I saw it on a porno site once...

GreenTerror
04-08-2005, 10:14 PM
I'm afraid I don't understand.
You know, like poetry, songs, or stories or something. Make some use out of your heartbreak and misery. It's a great way to get all your emotions out.

nitropenguin!
04-09-2005, 11:13 AM
And why is there always a wait to break the news? You wait 2 weeks to tell him that you're not interested in him like you used to be.
THAT is definitely the wrong thing to do. I am totally unaware of their intentions towards doing that. Many get allured ridiculously easily, two weeks is over the limit. It's rare to find a practical guy/girl that just tells you straight out if they're feeling awkward about the relationship as soon as they notice. My ex, he was one of the few. Talked to me and ended it as soon as he had doubts.


I just want answers. Don't feel bad, just answer.
I've gotten that horrible line once (very ashamed, it's not usually the females who hear it =s). But I believe the only reason you should be crushed about it is if you don't want to be friends because you want more than that. Not because you think they're insensitive fuckheads and refuse to associate with them ever again.

Some say it and mean it. They don't want to loose contact with you. I mean who would be interested in someone to the extent that they want to start a relationship but will isolate themselves from that person after things don't work out? Others, are insincere and can't think of anything else to prevent you from feeling undoubtfully worthless.

the_GoDdEsS
04-09-2005, 11:17 AM
Anique said it rather well. =)

And oh noes, that line has to be part of each culture. And I've said and heard it myself too.

Isolated Fury
04-09-2005, 12:44 PM
THAT is definitely the wrong thing to do. I am totally unaware of their intentions towards doing that. Many get allured ridiculously easily, two weeks is over the limit. It's rare to find a practical guy/girl that just tells you straight out if they're feeling awkward about the relationship as soon as they notice. My ex, he was one of the few. Talked to me and ended it as soon as he had doubts.

I've gotten that horrible line once (very ashamed, it's not usually the females who hear it =s). But I believe the only reason you should be crushed about it is if you don't want to be friends because you want more than that. Not because you think they're insensitive fuckheads and refuse to associate with them ever again.

Some say it and mean it. They don't want to loose contact with you. I mean who would be interested in someone to the extent that they want to start a relationship but will isolate themselves from that person after things don't work out? Others, are insincere and can't think of anything else to prevent you from feeling undoubtfully worthless.

Thank you...It actually kind of helped. Yeah, my former girlfriend said that she had been doubting our relationship for close to a month. She tried to explain that we were more friends than we are together anymore. She only saw me as a really close friend for the last two months, but when she saw how strongly I felt about her, yeah...

It's just confusing. And now that I'm not dating her anymore, I really don't know what I'm supposed to do. I was a completely different person with her. I don't want to go back to the way I used to be...

Betty
04-09-2005, 12:48 PM
It's really WEIRD being "just friends" with exes because you have to act differently all of a sudden. Like, yesterday you could hug them and kiss them and snuggle them and suddenly you just can't. THAT'S really weird.

That's not to say I don't want to be friends with my exes, I definitely want to. It just takes some time to get used to acting like "just friends".

Also, about the 2 week thing, I don't blame them at all. (Not sure if you're talking about like, cheating or something) But if they feel different, they probably want to sort through in their mind whether they really DO feel different and what they are feeling and how they want to proceed. It is not a trivial thing emotionally. Especially if you've been together a long time.

Nina
04-09-2005, 01:48 PM
well, i really do not understand the incorrectness of the "please lets stay friends" thing. as Betty said, the only weird thing would be changing the behaviour from one moment to another, but if two people were really close in their relationship and dont entirely HATE each other when breaking up, i see it as a very possible thing for them to become close friends. they did manage to be and deal with each other, after all (talking about the relationships that lasted for longer than two weeks, that is). and as long as their relationship was not based on lies (or similar "bad" things) i see a high possibility in even becoming something like best friends (explenation: lies = hurtful = a terrible thing = not good enough for a "base" of a friendship, if existant)

Sunny
04-09-2005, 10:12 PM
{{What kind of person would want to be your friend after you ripped the heart straight out of his chest? It's just wrong...}}

fuck that. the caring kind.

After I broke up with my most recent ex boyfriend, I asked to remain friends. We were entirely incompatible as a couple. We were going nowhere fast, in short. You're talking from the perspective of the dumpee... well, from my perspective (the dumper).. you can STILL care about a person AND not want to have an intimate relationship with them. You still want to stay close and help them through the difficult times and whatnot. And he declined my offer, treated me like shit over it, tried to guilt trip me... and it's hard to condemn him, because he was hurt. And I understand being hurt. However, from my perspective, it was horrible. It's like all he wanted me to be was his girlfriend - he didn't care about me staying in his life. He didn't want me to be in his life anymore. All he cared about was himself, at that point. And sure, it's valid, whatever. But it hurt me nonetheless.

whatever.