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Iddy
04-20-2005, 04:50 PM
Why are we living in a truely unimaginative age? Everyone i know (even myself sometimes) complains of being bored. Theres an air of apathy around everything. Youth crimes are on the increase, mostly due to boredom. Even the movies are unimaginative... either their remakes of old ones, books, crappy sequels or just the same old stuff.

Is our age of creativity over? Whats the most scary thing however is that it is somehow 'cool' to be bored or depressed or to not give a damn. the youth of today are the leaders of tomorrows... what are we going to do about it?

0r4ng3
04-20-2005, 05:31 PM
im too lazy to give a good response...
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Betty
04-20-2005, 05:57 PM
I don't know... there can only be so many things to blame... I'd imagine:

(1) Technology
(2) Lack of independence

It annoys me when all the kids on here are all "I'm booooored". Go get a job. Do your homework. Go play sports, exercise. Get a hobby. Read a book. And none of these things even involve FRIENDS.

Endymion
04-20-2005, 06:21 PM
Why are we living in a truely unimaginative age? Everyone i know (even myself sometimes) complains of being bored. Theres an air of apathy around everything. Youth crimes are on the increase, mostly due to boredom. Even the movies are unimaginative... either their remakes of old ones, books, crappy sequels or just the same old stuff.

Is our age of creativity over? Whats the most scary thing however is that it is somehow 'cool' to be bored or depressed or to not give a damn. the youth of today are the leaders of tomorrows... what are we going to do about it?

try looking beyond the mass media. there are original movies, there's originality all around you if you bother to open your eyes.

RXP
04-21-2005, 02:46 AM
It annoys me when all the kids on here are all "I'm booooored". Go get a job. Do your homework. Go play sports, exercise. Get a hobby. Read a book. And none of these things even involve FRIENDS.

Quoted for emphasis.

So true.

(also the way you caps friends makes you sound like a loner)

Caijs
04-21-2005, 03:12 AM
very true about the kids turning to crimes because of bordom. its the only way to go these days. its all about being hardcore ;) :cool:

Eccentric Sara
04-21-2005, 10:50 AM
Yeah,I agree,ppl shouldn't complain of being bored,but I still do it! When I'm not at work,I do get bored,purely because if I try to start doing something creative/interesting,it is too time-consuming and I end up staying up all night and getting no sleep. For example,if I write song lyrics,it takes hours because I am a perfectionist. I don't like leaving the song unfinished or not up to the standard it could be. As a result,I avoid doing anything like that ,which involves brain-work ,as it is just too stressful and time-consuming. School was a nightmare for me for this reason (among others!). I would stay up til 3am sometimes doing homework and trying to get everything perfect and then I would have to get up at 7 for school. :( The same kind of thing applies if I read a book. I am a very slow reader and don't like to read things and not remember them,so I tend to repeat-read paragraphs sometimes,so I remember things. As a result,it takes me forever to read a book. For the above reasons,I do undemanding activities like watching TV/listening to music/going online. I get no sense of satisfaction out of any of it,but at least I'm not stressed and can get a good night's sleep. I am bored shitless though. I feel like I've watched practically every programme the telly has to offer,I have listened to all of my CDs and can't download music at the moment so can't listen to anything new, and am just bored of the Internet really. And I don't have any friends in my town who I can meet up with. That's why I'm bored.

Jeez,that's got to be one of the biggest,not entirely related-to the-thread-rants ever! lol :rolleyes:

RXP
04-21-2005, 11:14 AM
Make some friends from work Sara. Socalise thru work. If you can't find a work place whre you can socialise. That's more important than pay.

Eccentric Sara
04-21-2005, 11:32 AM
Make some friends from work Sara. Socalise thru work. If you can't find a work place whre you can socialise. That's more important than pay.
Yeah,I agree with you! I'm not financially motivated particularly anyway! I haven't made any m8s at work so far,although everyone is pleasant enough,purely cos I have nothing in common with anyone else. No-one else likes rock,and ppl just think I'm a bit strange. :( I will try and find a better job at some point,maybe a shop job,which is what I'm best at,where I might be able to make friends. I always check the HMV/similar shops and Oasis Market for job vacancies as I would love to work in all of those shops,but there are never any vacancies. I will have to stay in the job I'm in at the moment,as I need to be working to be able to find somewhere to live. I am trying to do this atm.
It doesn't help that I'm not dressed as "myself" at work. I have to wear plain,neutral clothes as I knock on ppl's doors trying to get them to pledge money to charity. I can understand why there is a dress-code,but I still hate it because no-one sees the real me. I make friends much more easily if I'm dressed in "my" clothes. Especially on nights out. Strangers come up to me sometimes and ask "Where did you get your trousers/boots/bracelets?" or "Who did your eye-make-up for you? " I don't even have to try to socialise when I'm in that kind of environment,but at work,it's an effort to hold a conversation.:(

Betty
04-21-2005, 12:36 PM
(also the way you caps friends makes you sound like a loner)

Well, I was thinking about how two of my siblings... "the kids"... who are 13 and 17... they are seriously never online. They lead really busy lives. My brother (17) has been working for a couple years. They play sports... do extracurricular things at school... my sister is in cadets... they have tons of friends and are always hanging out around the neighborhood... they do their homework when they have to... and I just think its kinda sad that all these 13-16 year old people are on here ALL night racking up thousands of pointless posts. I was pretty much never online at that age either... cause I'd go to work or to volleyball practice... then do homework and hang out with my boyfriend. Now, I'm basically online when procrastinating from my 4-12 hours/day of homework. Or before bed.

And I KNOW some of them don't have any/many friends and so there are lots of things you can do without even having friends, or are good ways to make friends (e.g. work/sports).

Sara... do you do any kind of sports/athletics? A good way to meet people, get in shape, and have fun. I don't know if you're good at sports, but there's always interest classes and whatnot like swimming aerobics or karate type things...

Eccentric Sara
04-21-2005, 03:02 PM
Thanks for the suggestion :) ,but I HATE sports,with a passion!!! I hated P.E. at school- it was the lesson I was bullied in the most,as I was useless at everything. People would just shout at me the whole time,for not understanding the rules/not having enough stamina/not catching the ball etc. The only sport I really like is swimming,but I would do that on my own if I could be bothered to go,as I am very unfit,so couldn't do it at a competitive level,and when I go to the pool,I just want to swim for an hour- I don't really want to talk to ppl. Doing sports lowers my self-esteem if anything,cos I'm so bad at it. :(

Doing sports is kinda instilled into American/Canadian culture,but it's not really like that in the U.K. There are a lot of couch potatoes (like me!) in this country.

RXP
04-21-2005, 03:46 PM
online at that age either... cause I'd go to work or to volleyball practice... then do homework and hang out with my boyfriend. Now, I'm basically online when procrastinating from my 4-12 hours/day of homework. Or before bed.

And I KNOW some of them don't have any/many friends and so there are lots of things you can do without even having friends, or are good ways to make friends (e.g. work/sports).



I take it you've never been a loner? In high school till the final year I had like 0 people to go out with. When you have 0 friends you don't wanna go out because your socially retarded. Your nervous around social situations (even getting a job, or sports). Joining the cadets or whatever is all well and good if your a normal kid bt if your a loner it's a lot harder.

So if your a loner it's all well and good saying get out there but fuck it's hard. I never did until I forced myself to but that was cause of this one chick who I liked and you know 'love' moves mountains so a big crush got me into being more social (viz mountain). Then I came to uni and I guess by now I'm pretty normal social life wise.

Right now I'm so comfortable that I can go anywhere by myself. Everyday I wake up go to the library (usually alone) and revise, eat at subway or the cafe alone and do whatever I want alone. If I wanna go shopping I go alone. Because there's a HUGE difference between choosing to go somewhere alone and just having to go somewhere alone. In school I used to even hate people talking about what they did on the weekend.

So I guess that's why teens here rack up thousands of posts.

And Sara I'm gonna give you some tough love. I've been reading your posts for years now I think. You gotta stop thinking your different. You might be but who cares? you can make friends with people who aren't into the same music, clothes or as 'eccentric' as you. If your not making friends at your current job start over at a new place. No use saying you can't get a job. You gotta look further afield. Tried temping? Good way of meeting lots of pepole. Stop your 'can't can't can't' and start doing something about your predicament. It's hard but hey you gotta do it.

Also use sites faceparty and say your looking to just go out and stuff. And you live in Reditch we could meet up with the UnholyNightBringer or something?

Betty
04-21-2005, 03:56 PM
Dush, nice story and it makes sense and all, but, like you told Sara, YOU have to change your life and so being socially retarded is not an excuse to avoid attempting to have any type of social life whatsoever.

I totally understand that it's way easier said than done. I wouldn't say I've ever been a total loner, but I'm not miss social either. So doing things that give you the opportunity to be social but don't require you to be like I mentionned help you to slowly ease out of your anti-social shell.

Also, I think it's great to be totally comfortable doing things alone. I do a LOT alone. Some by choice, but not all.

Rye
04-21-2005, 05:41 PM
I take it you've never been a loner? In high school till the final year I had like 0 people to go out with. When you have 0 friends you don't wanna go out because your socially retarded. Your nervous around social situations (even getting a job, or sports). Joining the cadets or whatever is all well and good if your a normal kid but if your a loner it's a lot harder.

Thank you.


Dush, nice story and it makes sense and all, but, like you told Sara, YOU have to change your life and so being socially retarded is not an excuse to avoid attempting to have any type of social life whatsoever.

Sometimes it's not for lack of trying, though, it's just your personality or that of the people around you. I'm a loner for the most part, but I'm not socially retarded, I just don't mesh well with 95% of the people around me. It's my first year in a new school and in the beginning I was really social and still no one really accepted me or anything, so now I've just given up until next year, basically.


I totally understand that it's way easier said than done. I wouldn't say I've ever been a total loner, but I'm not miss social either. So doing things that give you the opportunity to be social but don't require you to be like I mentionned help you to slowly ease out of your anti-social shell.


Sports do require you to be social; sorry. That is, unless you're talking about going to a park or something and running. And the way you're saying this sounds like you're encouraging people to not be social until they're comfortable at work. Well, that's all fine and good for them, but if you're not, the coworkers may get opinions about you that could hamper further relations. You know they will; it's human nature.

Betty
04-21-2005, 07:55 PM
I feel like I'm allowed to be harsh in this thread... because I at least somewhat, if not entirely, know where you guys are coming from.

I'm just speaking from my own experience... I play volleyball... with strangers at my university because I love volleyball. Now, they seem very cliquey and, with my moderate social skills, I especially can't interact with them very well at all. So I just show up (it's pick up) and kinda randomly join a team (generally without saying much) and then play. Random high five here and there... laugh at the jokes... speak if spoken to... sometimes attempt to make a comment... but overall... nope, not very social. I've played other intramural sports too with random people. And I'm usually not too interactive. And I don't think they have formed negative opinions about me or anything... probably just no opinion at all because I almost go unnoticed. But at the same time... if I slowly get to know a couple people or all the people... then it's kinda good socially. And if not, it's at least fun. And some of the teams I got to know the people on quite well... just depends what kinda people.

At my old job I worked as a cashier so you first and foremost have to be social with the customers which is a good thing in itself. And then you only sorta have to be social with co-workers. You only REALLY have to speak when necessary. I was pretty quiet... made some friends slowly... but again... I don't think that they will form negative opinions of you if you're quiet, only if you're annoying.

So, yeah, this is coming from somebody who is shy but I consider myself to be interesting/fun and not particularly annoying so if you are an annoying person, this advice might not work for you.

Rye
04-21-2005, 08:06 PM
This is bugging me, so I just had to say it.

Apathy is not lacking creative ideas. It's not caring. Well, more specifically, not feeling emotion towards something. I know it's off topic; sorry...