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Jimbob2005
05-17-2005, 12:36 PM
My (so-called) "mates", at least I think, are deliberately trying to avoid me. I have suspected this for AGES but I was quite sure when one of my so-called other mates said to another "meet you...er...where we normally meet", deliberately, when I was around. Also, this morning, someone had a pack of cards with various famous people, and one of the famous people was some chinese man. One of my "mates" said "Hey, don't this look like you, James?!". I am sure that he was deliberately, but subtly, taking the piss.

This crowd I have hung around with have pissed me off in the past - I know that with lads growing up, it is what happens - it is lad culture to take the piss. But it is the extent to which it was done - a rumour (no detail will be gone into here!) was spread about me. It would have been a harmless joke at first but was exaggerated to the point that I didn't feel like being friends with them.

I did try to laugh it off afterwards, but various other problems and tensions had mounted between me and them, and I get the impression that they deliberately leave me out because they just don't like me as a result of these tensions. I don't feel like I want to know them anymore, and I am sure they are a bunch of two-faced pricks. I am just unsure that they really are trying to leave me out, and I would ask one of my mates who hangs about their crowd, but I really do think they are, since the signs are obvious - they never tell me where they go at lunch, it is kept a secret from me, and whenever they take the piss, it is in a very subtle manner.

Although I so have other friends, I never join their crowds because I find it inconvenient - I did once, but I never got into the conversation, and I am generally a shy person. I find I am normally by myself at lunchtimes and out of school.

Any advice? I'd appreciate it, because it is driving me mad. This is one reason why I can't wait to go to Uni, as socialising and acceptence is better among more mature people. I just don't know if I can stand another year like this, and it is REALLY pissing me off as well as depressing me.

ninth
05-17-2005, 12:37 PM
(you're a gook)

Brines
05-17-2005, 12:38 PM
I read the first paragraph. That happened to me before, in 2nd grade. Just get a new crowd, and don't worry about it. They're dicks.

Punky Dudess
05-17-2005, 12:40 PM
aaaaaaw! my sympathies, james! *cuddles*
i can't offer any advice as i've rarely been put in that situation and plus, i'm not the counciler type... but still, you don't need to take that shit from anyone! ;)

irishpunkrockgirl
05-17-2005, 12:45 PM
hey man
my friends are total wankers too. theyve been using me for 7 months now so i dont hang out with them no more but what pisses me off most is that they act as if nothing is going on. its really crap they havent called 4 me in ages and even when i told one of them i was havin problems with my parents she barely gave a crap. i wrote her a letter this mornin that i was very upset about it but she thinks its better to hang out with lads ALL the time instead of hangin round with me. so im just gonna tell her that if she cant divide her time between all her friends thats her problem but shes losing me as a friend. weve been friends since we were 4. :(

Gothgirl2606
05-17-2005, 12:46 PM
well, when it happened to me, i slapped the ringleader around the head, toldhim to mind his own retarded fucking business, and spent time on my own just thinking about life in general, and eventually they left me alone. :mad:

ninth
05-17-2005, 12:49 PM
My whole life is a dark room. One. Big. Dark. Room.

ninth
05-17-2005, 12:53 PM
No, no friends! So sad!

irishpunkrockgirl
05-17-2005, 12:53 PM
no. Everyone is a loser even if they deny it. im in a bad mood now. ah well

Jimbob2005
05-17-2005, 12:55 PM
I have friends - just the current crowd I "hang around" with is pissing me off and I asked for advice regarding this. It isn't a case of "Aww, no friends, so sad".

ninth
05-17-2005, 12:58 PM
I fall under the latter category.

ninth
05-17-2005, 12:59 PM
Fn wprd.

irishpunkrockgirl
05-17-2005, 01:02 PM
Have you not seen my pictures? Explain to me how somebody looking like me can possible lose? Even if I failed at life completely there'd still be a horde of lustful women lining up to give me money and cook me dinner and a horde of crawling stupid friends sucking up to me based solely on my sexy body.

Dude, your a loser inside no matter how much you try prove me wrong!!

ninth
05-17-2005, 01:03 PM
Your misuse of you're invalidates your entire statement.

killer_queen
05-17-2005, 01:04 PM
jimbob, your problem is nothing. really. a girl who used to be my best friend stole my stuffs. if your friends makes you sad or angry or not feel good just ignore them.

ninth
05-17-2005, 01:05 PM
Or stop being a little bitch and slash their shit up.

Noodles is gay
05-17-2005, 01:06 PM
Maybe it's the computing exam tomorrow! :eek: ARGH!!!!

Why don't you just tell them to piss off if they're gonna be like that to you? Either that or tell them how much what they're doing is hurting you (maybe only girls can do that though....?)

Why do you actually need them? Of course you can manage another year! I don't know what it's like for you but you could try just working so hard that you get straight As and totally forget about those dicks? Win, win there.

Sorry, i suck at advice; i'll go back to my own little world now.

irishpunkrockgirl
05-17-2005, 01:06 PM
Your misuse of you're invalidates your entire statement.

im a loser so fuck your're or however you spell it!

killer_queen
05-17-2005, 01:08 PM
Or stop being a little bitch and slash their shit up.
yes, it's a better idea.

Brines
05-17-2005, 01:11 PM
im a loser so fuck your're or however you spell it!

It would be you. Sorry.

JoY
05-17-2005, 01:13 PM
sucks to be you.

I kind of know how it feels. one time something pretty fucked up happened & gossip about it kept going around & my friends didn't know how to behave towards me & it was like "hey Bella, you know that boy I talked about earlier! ...uhh, nevermind.", or "Bella, I don't know what to say to you, or what to think for that matter, so yeah *turns around & leaves*". or just seeing your friends, sitting all together from a distance, throwing an odd look, like I was a stranger with odd clothes, talking, looking.... it just feels crappy to feel left out all of the sudden. but I'm sure I behaved just as absent to them, as they did to me in those days.

Brines
05-17-2005, 01:15 PM
We're here for you, Joy...Bella...Whatever.

JoY
05-17-2005, 01:16 PM
haha, no that's quite alright. thank you. whatever happened then, it's a pretty long time ago & such event only filter out real friends, which in the end is always a pleasure.

Jimbob2005
05-17-2005, 02:39 PM
Maybe it's the computing exam tomorrow! :eek: ARGH!!!!

Why don't you just tell them to piss off if they're gonna be like that to you? Either that or tell them how much what they're doing is hurting you (maybe only girls can do that though....?)

Why do you actually need them? Of course you can manage another year! I don't know what it's like for you but you could try just working so hard that you get straight As and totally forget about those dicks? Win, win there.

Sorry, i suck at advice; i'll go back to my own little world now.
Well, luckily, nothing affects my education.

And it isnt hurt feelings or anything like that, because I said I suspected they were skanking me for some time, and I never trusted them after that rumour they spread about me anyways.

nameless
05-17-2005, 02:41 PM
in my opinion you should try and get in with the other people you know! i had a similar experience a few years back and my social life has never really been back on track.

id known this guy for years, during school he befriended some people who i eventually became "mates" with. things were great at first, used to have some excellent times, but unfortunately, people change, its only natural!

i stopped getting along with them and the lads culture they seemed to think was cool! they were doing things i didnt want to be a part of as well as the back stabbing between them. i distanced myself from them which kinda made things worse - they wanted to know why, told me i was letting them down etc. but at the end of the day i had my reasons!

i still see the guy id known for years now and again but things arent really the same, he still acts like an arsehole around them, then they continue to slag him and each other off, yet whens hes with others hes a different person.

as i say, people change, im not saying ditch them, just try to meet others with similar interests and see what happens with the "mates"! hopefully you will meet new people at university as well.

i suppose its down to the person, what your morals are etc. id never dream of treating my mates the way they treated a supposed mate!

DEXJR
05-17-2005, 02:43 PM
in my opinion you should try and get in with the other people you know! i had a similar experience a few years back and my social life has never really been back on track.

id known this guy for years, during school he befriended some people who i eventually became "mates" with. things were great at first, used to have some excellent times, but unfortunately, people change, its only natural!

i stopped getting along with them and the lads culture they seemed to think was cool! they were doing things i didnt want to be a part of as well as the back stabbing between them. i distanced myself from them which kinda made things worse - they wanted to know why, told me i was letting them down etc. but at the end of the day i had my reasons!

i still see the guy id known for years now and again but things arent really the same, he still acts like an arsehole around them, then they continue to slag him and each other off, yet whens hes with others hes a different person.

as i say, people change, im not saying ditch them, just try to meet others with similar interests and see what happens with the "mates"! hopefully you will meet new people at university as well.

i suppose its down to the person, what your morals are etc. id never dream of treating my mates the way they treated a supposed mate!WHY THE FUCK DID U STEAL MY BAND NAME!
:mad: :mad: :mad:

TheUnholyNightbringer
05-17-2005, 02:46 PM
WHY THE FUCK DID U STEAL MY BAND NAME!
:mad: :mad: :mad:

Not every band in the world has a different name to everyone else.

nameless
05-17-2005, 02:46 PM
WHY THE FUCK DID U STEAL MY BAND NAME!
:mad: :mad: :mad:

what is with the band name, ive heard of about 5 or 6 groups supposedly using that name! someone better copyright it!

The Goth Guy
05-17-2005, 02:53 PM
*gay emo music plays* WHAT THE FUCK!!!??? *shoots the walls and music stops* Finally!

Endymion
05-18-2005, 08:15 PM
My (so-called) "mates", at least I think, are deliberately trying to avoid me. I have suspected this for AGES but I was quite sure when one of my so-called other mates said to another "meet you...er...where we normally meet", deliberately, when I was around. Also, this morning, someone had a pack of cards with various famous people, and one of the famous people was some chinese man. One of my "mates" said "Hey, don't this look like you, James?!". I am sure that he was deliberately, but subtly, taking the piss.

This crowd I have hung around with have pissed me off in the past - I know that with lads growing up, it is what happens - it is lad culture to take the piss. But it is the extent to which it was done - a rumour (no detail will be gone into here!) was spread about me. It would have been a harmless joke at first but was exaggerated to the point that I didn't feel like being friends with them.

I did try to laugh it off afterwards, but various other problems and tensions had mounted between me and them, and I get the impression that they deliberately leave me out because they just don't like me as a result of these tensions. I don't feel like I want to know them anymore, and I am sure they are a bunch of two-faced pricks. I am just unsure that they really are trying to leave me out, and I would ask one of my mates who hangs about their crowd, but I really do think they are, since the signs are obvious - they never tell me where they go at lunch, it is kept a secret from me, and whenever they take the piss, it is in a very subtle manner.

Although I so have other friends, I never join their crowds because I find it inconvenient - I did once, but I never got into the conversation, and I am generally a shy person. I find I am normally by myself at lunchtimes and out of school.

Any advice? I'd appreciate it, because it is driving me mad. This is one reason why I can't wait to go to Uni, as socialising and acceptence is better among more mature people. I just don't know if I can stand another year like this, and it is REALLY pissing me off as well as depressing me.

http://www.csulb.edu/%7Erjames/jimbob.jpg

JohnnyNemesis
05-18-2005, 08:17 PM
My whole life is a dark room. One. Big. Dark. Room.

Godjesus, that might be the funniest post I've ever read here!

Jimbob2005
05-19-2005, 09:51 AM
heres an advice. don't post here ever again.
Well...

I have some friends on this forum. However, no-one likes you.

Now who should really stop posting?

Jimbob2005
05-19-2005, 09:52 AM
no one likes gay people.
Is that why nobody on this BBS likes you?

crazy_offspring_gal
05-19-2005, 09:55 AM
Is that why nobody on this BBS likes you?
haha oh god that made me laugh! :D

Jimbob2005
05-19-2005, 09:55 AM
And did you also fail to notice that I said that I do actually have some friends, but there are some problems within the current crowd I hang around with? You are abviously a dumbshit who can't read or write/type very well.

Eccentric Sara
05-19-2005, 02:23 PM
My (so-called) "mates", at least I think, are deliberately trying to avoid me. I have suspected this for AGES but I was quite sure when one of my so-called other mates said to another "meet you...er...where we normally meet", deliberately, when I was around. Also, this morning, someone had a pack of cards with various famous people, and one of the famous people was some chinese man. One of my "mates" said "Hey, don't this look like you, James?!". I am sure that he was deliberately, but subtly, taking the piss.

This crowd I have hung around with have pissed me off in the past - I know that with lads growing up, it is what happens - it is lad culture to take the piss. But it is the extent to which it was done - a rumour (no detail will be gone into here!) was spread about me. It would have been a harmless joke at first but was exaggerated to the point that I didn't feel like being friends with them.

I did try to laugh it off afterwards, but various other problems and tensions had mounted between me and them, and I get the impression that they deliberately leave me out because they just don't like me as a result of these tensions. I don't feel like I want to know them anymore, and I am sure they are a bunch of two-faced pricks. I am just unsure that they really are trying to leave me out, and I would ask one of my mates who hangs about their crowd, but I really do think they are, since the signs are obvious - they never tell me where they go at lunch, it is kept a secret from me, and whenever they take the piss, it is in a very subtle manner.

Although I so have other friends, I never join their crowds because I find it inconvenient - I did once, but I never got into the conversation, and I am generally a shy person. I find I am normally by myself at lunchtimes and out of school.

Any advice? I'd appreciate it, because it is driving me mad. This is one reason why I can't wait to go to Uni, as socialising and acceptence is better among more mature people. I just don't know if I can stand another year like this, and it is REALLY pissing me off as well as depressing me.

I had EXACTLY the same problem at school. I didn't have any proper friends til I started uni. At school,I alternated between hanging around with "so-called friends" (,who just took the piss out of me the whole time,and sometimes had a go at me for following them) and being alone. I didn't see any ppl from school outside of school. I just used to go home,do my homework and watch telly. I don't really know how to advise you,as I kinda gave up on making friends at school myself. I just decided to wait until I got to uni to make friends,which worked for me. I would suggest that you just tell these guys what you think of them and make some new friends. There's no point in hanging around with ppl who make you feel rejected. That's not friendship!

Eccentric Sara
05-19-2005, 02:31 PM
I can relate to him. And I think his opinions ARE valid. And what exactly IS a gook?

RXP
05-19-2005, 02:39 PM
Here's where I chime in about my experiences at school cause I was pretty much a loser like Sara. Except I was a 'cool' loser cause I talked to everyone inc. the cool crowed and extremely talkactive in lessons n shit.

High school is full of gayness. People say "omg when you get to uni it will change". No uni is full of gayness too. THe big difference between the two is that you meat a lot more people at uni. There's still the people who pretend they're best friends but you know they're nothing. There's still the popular crowd, the geeks, loners etc. but all to a lesser degree.

I've got a good bunch of friends now. In school I never did. I had people to hang round with in school but I was never clingy enough to do things with them outside school cause I never wanted to impose myself on them. I also never liked going out at school anyway.

But right now I have alot of 'mates'. People who are safe to go out with, have a good time but not what I'd term real friends. I think I have like 5 real friends . A friend of mine opened my eyes yesterday cause I always took him not one to think about life. He said "everyone has their price". Money is a paramount concern to everyone. Soon as money comes between a friendship - it's usually over. That's the test of a deep friendship to me now. If money isn't an issue.

Hmmmpf where is this post going? is it even relevant? This should prolly go in my blog but I'll continue.

I have 2 friends who I could totally open up to and who'd be there for me. I guess the other 3 would too but I woudln't feel confortable asking them or telling them stuff.

Then there's online friends. Strange as it seems some of my online friends I'd count as close friends. I'm thinking of two maybe three people in particular. And with 2 of 'em I only started talking to them recently. But whenever something happens in my life I feel the urge to tell them.

And don't mind TripBoy he has to act like this on the BBS. He knows what it's like to have 'fake' friends too. We all do.

RXP
05-19-2005, 02:39 PM
I can relate to him. And I think his opinions ARE valid. And what exactly IS a gook?

Chineese, Korean etc.

Jimbob2005
05-19-2005, 02:45 PM
Here's where I chime in about my experiences at school cause I was pretty much a loser like Sara. Except I was a 'cool' loser cause I talked to everyone inc. the cool crowed and extremely talkactive in lessons n shit.

High school is full of gayness. People say "omg when you get to uni it will change". No uni is full of gayness too. THe big difference between the two is that you meat a lot more people at uni. There's still the people who pretend they're best friends but you know they're nothing. There's still the popular crowd, the geeks, loners etc. but all to a lesser degree.

I've got a good bunch of friends now. In school I never did. I had people to hang round with in school but I was never clingy enough to do things with them outside school cause I never wanted to impose myself on them. I also never liked going out at school anyway.

But right now I have alot of 'mates'. People who are safe to go out with, have a good time but not what I'd term real friends. I think I have like 5 real friends . A friend of mine opened my eyes yesterday cause I always took him not one to think about life. He said "everyone has their price". Money is a paramount concern to everyone. Soon as money comes between a friendship - it's usually over. That's the test of a deep friendship to me now. If money isn't an issue.

Hmmmpf where is this post going? is it even relevant? This should prolly go in my blog but I'll continue.

I have 2 friends who I could totally open up to and who'd be there for me. I guess the other 3 would too but I woudln't feel confortable asking them or telling them stuff.

Then there's online friends. Strange as it seems some of my online friends I'd count as close friends. I'm thinking of two maybe three people in particular. And with 2 of 'em I only started talking to them recently. But whenever something happens in my life I feel the urge to tell them.

And don't mind TripBoy he has to act like this on the BBS. He knows what it's like to have 'fake' friends too. We all do.
OK cheers for that.

Toxic Speed Bump
05-19-2005, 02:48 PM
My whole life is a dark room. One. Big. Dark. Room.

haha, that's emo as fuck... but I like that song.

Eccentric Sara
05-19-2005, 02:55 PM
[QUOTE=RXP]Here's where I chime in about my experiences at school cause I was pretty much a loser like Sara. Except I was a 'cool' loser cause I talked to everyone inc. the cool crowed and extremely talkactive in lessons n shit.

QUOTE]
I would describe myself at school as a LONER,not a LOSER. They are too very different things. I would define a loser as someone who is going nowhere,or who is unsuccessful with things like schoolwork/a career etc. I got the best G.C.S.E. and "A" Level grades in my year group and got into uni on a scholarship. I was far from being a loser.
Right,now I've got that cleared up :) ,it's nice that there are other ppl who had the same experiences as me at school. I don't feel quite so bitter about it all now,as I know there were ppl at other schools who were just like me. :)

Eccentric Sara
05-19-2005, 02:58 PM
haha, that's emo as fuck... but I like that song.
Hehe. I AM emo as fuck! :D I love that song aswell. The quote is originally from the film "Beetlejuice" though. One of the best films ever made in my opinion. I suggest you watch it if you haven't already.:)

RXP
05-19-2005, 02:58 PM
it pisses me off tho. In my first school I was an absolute stud. In all the sports teams etc. but it was an all boys school so I never got to profit from any of it.

Eccentric Sara
05-19-2005, 06:45 PM
Aw,yeah,that does indeed suck! Nobody found me attractive at all until I went to uni. The first time a guy asked me out,I didn't believe him. I thought it was some sort of sarcastic joke.

ninth
05-19-2005, 06:48 PM
it pisses me off tho. In my first school I was an absolute stud. In all the sports teams etc. but it was an all boys school so I never got to profit from any of it.
You so could have gotten some cock for that.

Jimbob2005
05-20-2005, 06:44 AM
I would describe myself at school as a LONER,not a LOSER. They are too very different things. I would define a loser as someone who is going nowhere,or who is unsuccessful with things like schoolwork/a career etc. I got the best G.C.S.E. and "A" Level grades in my year group and got into uni on a scholarship. I was far from being a loser.
Right,now I've got that cleared up :) ,it's nice that there are other ppl who had the same experiences as me at school. I don't feel quite so bitter about it all now,as I know there were ppl at other schools who were just like me. :)
I couldn't disagree - I am more like that, only, like I said, I do actually have friends.

Both Sara and RXP have made good posts. Thankyou.

Jimbob2005
05-20-2005, 06:52 AM
I know, nowt will change that, I don't think...

Jimbob2005
05-20-2005, 12:15 PM
What does nowt mean. I never heard of that word before.
British shorthand for "Nothing"

Dexter_Kyle
05-20-2005, 12:20 PM
Are the problems solved ?

Jimbob2005
05-20-2005, 12:21 PM
Well, can't say, guess it is time to hang around with my other friends I have.

Dexter_Kyle
05-20-2005, 12:27 PM
Good for you man.

Jimbob2005
05-20-2005, 12:30 PM
Thank you, dude.

I don't know
05-20-2005, 12:31 PM
My (so-called) "mates", at least I think, are deliberately trying to avoid me. I have suspected this for AGES but I was quite sure when one of my so-called other mates said to another "meet you...er...where we normally meet", deliberately, when I was around. Also, this morning, someone had a pack of cards with various famous people, and one of the famous people was some chinese man. One of my "mates" said "Hey, don't this look like you, James?!". I am sure that he was deliberately, but subtly, taking the piss.

This crowd I have hung around with have pissed me off in the past - I know that with lads growing up, it is what happens - it is lad culture to take the piss. But it is the extent to which it was done - a rumour (no detail will be gone into here!) was spread about me. It would have been a harmless joke at first but was exaggerated to the point that I didn't feel like being friends with them.

I did try to laugh it off afterwards, but various other problems and tensions had mounted between me and them, and I get the impression that they deliberately leave me out because they just don't like me as a result of these tensions. I don't feel like I want to know them anymore, and I am sure they are a bunch of two-faced pricks. I am just unsure that they really are trying to leave me out, and I would ask one of my mates who hangs about their crowd, but I really do think they are, since the signs are obvious - they never tell me where they go at lunch, it is kept a secret from me, and whenever they take the piss, it is in a very subtle manner.

Although I so have other friends, I never join their crowds because I find it inconvenient - I did once, but I never got into the conversation, and I am generally a shy person. I find I am normally by myself at lunchtimes and out of school.

Any advice? I'd appreciate it, because it is driving me mad. This is one reason why I can't wait to go to Uni, as socialising and acceptence is better among more mature people. I just don't know if I can stand another year like this, and it is REALLY pissing me off as well as depressing me.
that's so bad :( , i'm really sorry for you. why don't you kill them?

Jimbob2005
05-20-2005, 12:33 PM
that's so bad :( , i'm really sorry for you. why don't you kill them?
Tee hee cheers for showing sympathy, but it isn't a major problem now. It never was a case of "OMFGZZ!!!!1111 No friends how sad hahaha" anyways! Lol!

I don't know
05-20-2005, 12:38 PM
heheeheheheheheh :D

Eccentric Sara
05-20-2005, 02:25 PM
I couldn't disagree - I am more like that, only, like I said, I do actually have friends.

Both Sara and RXP have made good posts. Thankyou.
Glad to help. :) If you want to chat on MSN: eccentricsara@hotmail.com (eccentricsara@hotmail.com) .

Jimbob2005
05-20-2005, 02:32 PM
Ok, thanks, I have added you.