Omg i love my boyfriend!
Why is it that when so many people start dating someone new, they feel obligated to immediately declare to all of Facebook, over and over again, about how much they loooooove their new boyfriend/girlfriend? I mean... they've been on one or two dates total and now you are 'together' and 'completely in love'? And three weeks from now, he/she will be devastated when they break up, for about five minutes. Then he/she falls head over heels for the next person who will let him/her doink them.Is there just a basic lack of understanding about what love really is and feels like? What happened to dating and getting to know each other first? Do they feel the need to declare it on Facebook, thinking that is the only way to make this new guy/girl feel validated?
There was a girl, quite recently, who was updating her status about every five minutes to inform us about how much she loved her boyfriend, then my husband showed me what she texted him. "If you were to become single, he knows I'd leave him in a second to be with you." Needless to say, he stopped talking to her. I thought it was funny that she thought he'd ever leave me for her (apparently, she spent a couple months telling my friend about how she was going to make it happen, not realizing I saw most of her texts to him. LOL). Clearly she was overcompensating, but do you think that is what these other people on Facebook are doing? Or do they confuse love with lust? Maybe they really just don't know what love is in the first place.
I've been pondering this a lot lately. It seems like 95% of the single people I know are guilty of doing this in one form or another. That is a gross over-estimation, but some days it definitely feels like that. And its not just limited to the people I know through work who are fresh out of high school. I see folks in their 30s and 40s do the same thing.
I thought it was strange that you made a thread by this name. See, this is why I don't bother with relationships anymore. Too much drama, blah, blah, blah.
I'm sure some of these, no, many of these people are just trying to rub the fact that they are dating someone else in the faces of their exes, not realizing their exes have probably blocked them. They are more likely trying to validate themselves and to get their friends to tell them how happy they are for them and to make themselves feel valuable. If they don't brag about it every time they exhale, then how will anyone know they are worth anything to anyone? It's pathetic.
P.S. I like your use of the word "doink."
As a perpetually single person, I can say that the excitement of having a new relationship can be overwhelming to the point that people sometimes do and say irrational things. That said, I have NEVER been the type to get all gushy in public over someone, and I find it kind of off-putting and rude when other people do. That ALSO said, I'm usually quiet about my opinions regarding this kind of thing because then people in couples think that I'm bitter and jealous, hehe.
Basically, the kind of people who post a million status updates in a row about how in love they are tend to be the same kind of people who can't go 3 seconds without kissing or hugging or cuddling their significant other, no matter how inappropriate the situation is. What's that, you're on a crowded bus? Better grind your ass into your boyfriend's crotch and nuzzle his neck so everyone knows you're a couple!
Aren't they also the type of person to post bitter things after they've been dumped?
Oh. My. God. Do NOT get me started on people who post maudlin song lyrics for their Facebook status updates for weeks after a breakup...
I had two friends who would literally break up and get back together with their girlfriends several DOZEN times in a 24-hour period, so that their relationship status changes showed up in my feed/notifications. ALSO, one of those friends, upon breaking up with his girlfriend (a mutual friend) for good, posted a bunch of YouTube clips of sad songs on her wall. I just don't know how anyone could be comfortable tolerating or participating in that kind of behavior!
Geez! If that ever happened to me, they'd get an instablock. I blocked my ex that broke up with me via IM chat. He called me possessive when I'm the furthest from that in a relationship. I don't even know why he would call me that. I was sick of arguing on FB after it, so I blocked him, he didn't have to block me.
Well, she's no longer friends with him on Facebook, so I guess she finally escaped. Good for her. :)
If that happened to me, I would publicly shame them first and block them second. Maybe I'm evil.
I've noticed that among my FB friends. One girl is STILL going off about divorcing her ex & it's been at least 2 yrs!! Always bitching about something. I'd rather have someone gushing about their SO, then being a "Debbie Downer", complaining about their life every 5 minutes. But I can see how gushing over your SO could get annoying if it happened all the time.
I gush about how cool the Offspring and Greg K are, haha. Luckily, that doesn't count because the people I gush to gush back about them. It's different when people rub it in your face/book about their relationship, especially when you can't rub yours back in their face/book. What do you do then besides ignore them?
I honestly don't know which is worse. They both seem equally annoying to me. I'm starting to think that I'm a weirdo for making a conscious effort to post things that people might actually want to read.
Similarly, I RARELY post about The Offspring because I don't have a lot of friends who are into them. I certainly don't have any friends that are as into them as I am. Plus, I don't have a whole lot of interesting things to say about them nowadays! When I was counting down to their show on Sept 19 though, you'd better believe my whole wall was an Offspring gush-fest :D
Originally Posted by "Melyssa K" Kennedy