If the brunt of your argument is not that I am "just as extreme as the people I argue with," then perhaps you shouldn't head off your paragraph with that exact statement. As far as I can tell, the blunt of your accusation is that I am "extreme" (or whatever word you meant to use) because I am fairly established in my ideas, I defend them strongly, and I don't change my mind regularly. "Poking holes and searching for weaknesses" is how you test an idea to make sure it holds up in light of criticism. If your ideas are that easy to poke holes in, maybe you shouldn't hold them in the first place, or at least not take offense when someone criticizes them.
My post had a point that honestly has absolutely nothing to do with what you believe. The point was in the rest of my comment, talking about hoooow you go about sharing your beliefs with others.