I've heard that it happens - pushing out babies to get cash. no way around it, that just IS disgusting. very young mothers fall under the responsibility of their parents, so financially that remains different, but the cash flow in the direction of young mothers that brought a child into this world with a broken family, a financially unstable situation, immature & without parenting skills, that just pains & furiates me. they (& their parents, their children & society) would be much better off with professional training of parenting skills.
Originally Posted by TheUnholyNightbringer
true, true. but for instance, I study medicine, which takes 6 years + 5 years of specialisation, at least. I don't feel any baby-urge yet, but for health reasons of myself & the baby, I don't want get preg by the time I'm over 35 years old. because educational spots are relatively rare in my profession, I'm probably 29 by the time I've finally finished medicine, not even talking about a specialisation.
Originally Posted by Jebus
I want to have kids one day, on a good day. on a day I know me & my guy will do anything to stay together forever (though I already have that feeling). on a day he has his income & I have mine & we have our own place. on a day I don't have to bring my baby to university to class, because I couldn't find an available sitter. on a day I know what to do & how to do it, when it comes to parenting & bringing up a child successfully.
fortunately the chances a woman can get knocked up at that age are close to zero. if they do, it's selfish for whole other reasons, besides burdening a child with old parents. namely the risk that the child won't be healthy, the older the mother is.
Originally Posted by Superdope
yeah. my problem with that is that you can't secure a stable environment now & in the future for a kid when you yourself are very young, because you can't realistically estimate what the (even near) future will bring, when you're still in your studies, still very rapidly undergoing personal development, et cetera. of course life can always take an unexpected turn, but if there's a planning, a realistic future perspective, education, money & experience to deal with disappointments & disasters, it's much more likely that it'll turn out fine, than when you've just finished high school.
Originally Posted by mrconeman
also, I really believe that experience can help you to raise a child. possibly one has enough experience at the age of 20 to pull it off, but it's less likely than in case of someone who's older. although, like everyone said, some 20 year olds make fantastic parents, while some 30 year olds completely mess up. either way, the consequences of crappy parenting are way too huge to just go for it & see what happens.
holy shit, wtf. breastfeeding = incredibly important!
Originally Posted by Sunny
fully agreed. most adults are mature/responsible, but adulthood doesn't mean you're automatically mature/responsible. most adolescents aren't fully mature/responsible, although their young age doesn't mean they can't be mature/responsible. that being said, I think there's a substantial risk adolescents can't oversee all factors & overestimate themselves, their relation & their situation, when deciding to get a child.
Originally Posted by nieh
of course it's difficult to find a job at a young age, especially when you haven't gotten to finishing an education &/or have no job experience. that still makes one financially less stable.
Last edited by JoY; 06-25-2008 at 07:52 AM.
Originally Posted by Mark_Bryan_420
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