Here's something that I've been mulling in my head for some time now, especially since being pretty damn into old-school The Cure records (that is, their 80's discography) and sort of realizing the zeitgeist of those records and the impact their music had and what kind of people would listen to it.
I've never really cared what a typical [insert name of favourite band] fan looks like, because I've got a pretty varied taste and my subject of obsession switches every so often - no band's music or specific genre is so tied to my identity that I could be like "yeah I used to be a punkrocker" or emo or goth or metalhead or indie rocker or anything.
It's weird, I sometimes wonder if I'm missing out by not identifying so much with something very specific and working within that field. Like I see the embarrassing fans of jrock, lining up to concerts and whatnot, and while I wouldn't want to join their crowd, it's definitely a sense of community and they seem to enjoy that, enjoy each other and the music. Similarly the metalheads seem to have a very strong community all around Finland. People meet, talk about music, and instantly bond because they both like Finnish heavymetal or whatever.
I don't have that. It always takes a certain time before I can just flat-out admit I like a band to a stranger because I'm afraid they'll assume things about me based on some band I like. I tend to like very few bands, but I like those bands *a lot* - buy all the albums, listen to them constantly etc. But the bands may be from completely different fields. I can listen to The Cure's Disintegration and then turn on Korean hiphop and dig them both exactly the same.
But I don't want people to label me - oh god so cliché I know - like I don't want to tell people I like The Cure and make them think I'm some sort of gothrocker, or that I love Jimmy Eat World and make them think I'm an old skool emo, or Bollywood music and make them think I'm either a new age freak or a pseudo-quirky hipster or whateverthefuck.
Given - it might be total paranoia that people do this. Maybe they don't at all. But I feel like some people do, and it always makes me a bit wary of admitting to liking something - especially if it's something that's not mainstream, especially if it's something people tend to label as uncool.
Still, whatever, right? We can't all listen to Coldplay, Katy Perry and The Beatles.