Pastor Blames Women For Uncontrollable Male Sexual Lust
I'm sorry to have to bring up religion so blatantly again, but....ah, hell. No I'm not. This kind of thing just really pisses me off.
Pastor CJ Mahaney put out a promotional video for one of his recent sermons, titled "What Men Think About Lust." The first minute or two is about one college student's introspective fight against apparently overwhelming obsession with sex....but the video quickly turns to blaming women for "dressing provocatively," calling on fathers to screen their daughter's wardrobes because "they're men, they know about this better than you do" and other such condescending BS.
I mean, on the one hand, I understand the point they're trying to make --- women dressing scantily goes against their principles, and they think it subtly influences people to behave immorally --- but even though I disagree with that, I just can't stand this condescending, sexist, authoritative, priveleged tone the guy takes when he's explaining this. When he's speaking "to" women, it's like he's talking to someone who just never could have had a sincere or honest thought in their head about how their clothes might be seen by men. What's worse, though, is that he speaks as though women have some kind of "responsibility" towards men to dress a certain way. He keeps appealing to the general weakness of males, saying things like, "You don't understand how hard it is for men," or, "you don't understand how strong urges are for men," etc.
I'm a man. I'm single. I have horny-ass thoughts all the time, but I don't let it distract me from my job or my relationships or my life, I don't hate myself for it, and most importantly, I don't blame women for it. If your dick is so overwhelmingly in control of your mind that you can't control yourself when a woman walks by in a tube top, then here's a thought --- maybe there's something wrong with you?
Sorry for that....I just consider it an insulting and demeaning cop-out (and an insult to me, personally) for any other man to sit here and use this bullshit excuse that "I'm a man, I can't help it!" YES YOU DAMN WELL CAN help it. The rest of us can. And if *you* can't, that's not normal. It's called sexual obsession, or sex addiction, and you can get professional help with stuff like that. But first you have to admit that YOU have a problem --- blaming it on someone else only justifies the behavior and enables it to escalate until you're doing shit like raping people. Look at the most common psychological profiles for non-serial rapists --- they almost always use the justification along the lines of, "she was asking for it, dressed like that."
For all the things that I never did
For all the places I never was
For all the people I never stopped
But there was nothing I could do..."